now i have bin with my current girl dog since she was 8 weeks old .and i love her very mutch .at age 2 1/2 i cant stand to be away from her .i mean if i go out to a movie with friends all i can think of is when will it be over so i can go back home to her .i take her with me every place i go but if were apart all i can think of is her and my other girls .i went on a two day camping trip with some friends and didnt take them i ended up leaving the first night ,said i was sick ,just to go home to them .does any one else do this .or should i get help :D

I see you have been here on the BF for a while, and I have seen some of your other posts, so I know you are legit. This is a very interesting question, thanks for posting it. I may not have a conclusive answer for you, but I can tell you that you are not alone in the way you feel.

I had a thoroughbred mare, I was with her for seven years. She was the love of my life, and I didn't want to go for a single day without seeing her. Not necessarily for sex, but just because I felt this incredible bond and didn't ever want to be away from her. When I would go away for the weekend, I would wait to leave until saturday morning so I could see her on Saturday. I would also make sure to come back Sunday evening so I could see her without missing a day.

So this behavior is not unusual. It is only a problem if it is interfering with your life or if you feel it is out of your control. I often thought about seeking counseling for this too, I just wanted to talk to somebody about how much I loved my mare, but I could never work up the nerve. I'm not sure how a counselor would have reacted or responded.

In my opinion, love is a wonderful thing. I don't have any regrets. I was going to be with my mare til death do us part. Unfortunately she got kicked and died, so we did part. I was extremely depressed for years and years after. I still love her and think about her every day.

Hope this helps. I've been there. I truely love my current horses, and I still try to see them twice every day, but I am no longer so obsessed about it. Time has mellowed me.

Shire :D

This post has been edited by ShireGuy on Jan 5 2007, 05:27 PM

thanks for the reply,i gess were just a match i love every thing about her not just sex .when she was 8 weeks old a person came into the shop i was working at asking if any one wanted to buy her for 800 bucks .every one new how i am with animals so they all pointed at me .i had 4 female dogs already and didnt have 800 bucks so i told him no .later i found her sleeping under a junk truck .she had bin dumped there .we have bin best friends ever since .i mean we eat together sleep together do every thing together along with my other girls but she has attatched her self to me unlike my other girls i cant even go to the bathroom with out her being there .so when were apart i dont feel hole .like somthing is missing .maby in time it will go away but in almost three years the love i feel for her only gets stronger well thanks for the reply again mopar :D

You are far from alown

You need to find a people friend you trust to care for the girls when you go away.
We have been luckly that way usually. When we are away from the barn we call the help at every feed time and at last check..
We have come home early a few times though..
Rus

well its not a trust thing .my girls are always left in good hands .or they would be with me .thats just how i am .they come first .this is just a feeling of reliefe when im with them away i get antsy and all i can think of is them .thanks for the reply rus and shire, mopar

I do not think there is anything unusual about loving someone so much that you cannot be apart from them without thinking constantly about them.

When I was younger, I experienced this with the three first animals that I had a relationship with. Neither of these animals belonged to me, and it led to me getting depressed and unable to focus about anything, as I was only thinking of the one I loved.

The first love was a cow who was taken away for slaughter after a few years. The second one a mare, that I forced myself to stop seeing, because I loved her too much. The third one was a female dog, that I also forced myself to stop seeing, for the same reason.

I have never stopped loving them, and all of them are dead now, but they will always still exist in my heart.

Since then, I have forced myself to never fall in love with an animal until I can have my own cows. It's very difficult sometimes, to not fall in love when I am spending time with a lovely individual.

This is the reason why I don't allow myself to get sexual pleasure from a cow, and I limit myself to giving them pleasure. I don't feel comfortable getting pleasure from someone I do not love, and I am terrified of falling in love with someone who I cannot constantly be around.

Feeling tormented for not being close to the one you love is not strange.

You most definatly are not alone. My girl, a female German Shepard, I feel extreamly strong for her, and if i'm away from her even for 5 mins she's all i can think about, my 12 hour work nights are almost murder on me, the job is enjoyable and I work with great people, but i'm away from my girl. It's so bad that I litterly can't sleep with out her cuddled up next to me, I spent Thanksgiving up at my dad's, and due to the number of people and caos going on at the time i decided not to bring my girl, i didn't want to put her though all the mess, but i litterly didn't sleep for days, I'm not sure what it is, but we are just so close and I just can't stand to be away from her. I'm sure there are others that feel the same way. On the lighter note i went to visit good friends for the christmas holiday and took her with, and was a very good time.

I'm not sure if there is a "technical" term for the way we feel about our girls, or if it's a bad thing, but I know it's true, and very intense.

Tundra

You're definately not alone Mopar - I havn't even seen a movie at the cinema since I got my little girl at 8 weeks (she's 2yo in a month :blush: ). I used to go twice a month B)

My family know I won't visit unless there's a place for my girls, so even my brother in law tolerates them, and he's allergic :o

I'm utterly and unashamedly obsessed with them and wouldn't have it any other way - being content is a lot cheaper than counselling :P

:heart: I do the same thing.. I have separation anxiety when i am away from my 2 dogs.
My female is a mutt i rescued from going to the pound. After raising and finding homes for her pups, I took her with me everywhere i went. Then I decided to get her a boyfriend and found a retired studd dog. Now i can leave her at home and she has a buddy to play with at home. I am happy for the 2 of them to be able to play together. So now i dont feel bad to leave her at home i feel bad to leave him.
He has become more attached to me and in turn brought me closer to my female dog (she is jealous from all the attenion we give each other) :puppykiss:
mopar you dont need help, but i would love to offer my help anytime *dear :)

thanks for the replys. in heat she will not mate with male dog .she gets very aggresive .during her last heat a friend was petting her and got close to her butt and she turned around and growled at him .but i can touch her any place any time .so i think she has picked me as her only mate .i think she feels the same way about me as i do about her .well thanks again mopar