Hey Tykes, you make me laugh!.. and you are right, I wont listen to you... as far as our "tangled" up poor lass, I am at a loss, sheesh what a choice to make!...its not gonna be easy as I have had personal experience and we are all different, my heartfelt empathy for our lady friend..oh and a very warm welcome, as you are among friends now. cheers BZ.

Hello It's me Scratchme. I started this post when I first started on this wonderfull web site. I feel I should let all the wonderful people who've been kind enough to offer me thier advice. I'm sure some people will not agree or like my decision. But it's my life. I've decided to stay with my guy, I love him too much to chose another over him. We have talked everything over, and everything is great now.
Also I perposefully didn't tell everything about my life because, I was only asking advice on one problem in my life.
Thanks again everybody, I hope to see you around the BF site. Bye :D

Well Scratchme, I'm happy for you and wish you and your boyfriend the best. :friends:

Silvercircles said it so well....I agree with that point of view. Scratchme, think it through carefully...Make a list of the main points to consider and look them over, think about them and go from there. I wish you well.

i really feel for you here- im in a similar situation. I have been interested in zoo for about 5 years maybe a little longer but didnt know what it was. My partner thinks its disgusting on a par with sexual crimes- it makes me feel very guilty. however i will keep working on him and if he loves me, i hope he will accept im into it- i dont expect him to take part of even really understand. if it came down to it, i would choose my partner, i love him and would be willing to be content with BF :)
I think you did the right thing scratch me

With my husband's blessing, I carried on a 3 year affair with another man. While my hubby had no probelms with my k9 activities, my lover didn't understand it, and didn't want to know or even hear about it. So there's no telling how others can or will react to your k9 interests.

Good on you girl :)

But please be aware that good sex is only 10% to blame for a good relationship, whereas bad sex tends to be 90% to blame for a bad relationship.

If your zoo fantasies are just that... fantasies then you've made the right choice. On the other hand, if they are more than fantasies and the urge to get some beasty action increases to the point where you get fixated then you may find you've either made the wrong decision or that you are going to have to breach the trust between you two. Only you can know how badly you want the beasty action, if it's something you just HAVE to do the I'd put money on it becoming a problem in your relationship.

IOW if it's your intention to stay with this guy then put out of your head any desires for animal fun, if you don't it will corrode the relationship sooner or later.

Now it's up to you to prove me wrong :P

Damn, I'm not very good at this serious stuff, I far prefer to be taking the piss :D

Well scratchme, I hope the decision you made is the right one for you. Only you know that. I purposely refrained from giving my opinion because of my lack of information about the situation. :thinking:

It's nice that we have this forum that allows us to connect with others that share our interests. Sometimes just being able to vent your frustrations with others that have an unusual interest in common can help a little. Who knows, maybe one day he'll come around. Where there's life, there's hope. ;)

Take care of yourself scratch. Hope itn all works out for you. :friends:

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