So....you're thinking of having a meet and greet (M&G) in your area. That's awesome that you want to get to know your fellow forum members. Having had two successful M&Gs in Arizona and several private meetings, I've been asked to lend some advice on how to make yours successful and safe. B) I'm more than happy to share what I've learned. :smartass:


How to start:
Assuming you already have an active thread for your area with several active members, start a post suggesting a M&G.

There needs to be at least one person who will "host" or sponsor the M&G. One who will maintain the thread and follow through with posts. That person needs to commit to making it happen and to showing up at the M&G. :clapping:

Pick a general date and location. The date should be at least two months out so that everyone will have time to see the post and to have time to plan for the M&G. Allow for suggestions and feedback from anyone. Be flexible about date, location, and time.

Location:
Your first M&G should be in some place that is generally a public place. A place where all would be comfortable showing up. People need to feel comfortable that, if at the last minute they change their mind, they can walk away and nobody would know who they were. :ph34r:

Pick a place were people normally gather as freinds or strangers. A city park, a bar or restaurant, a local beach or lake...some place where it would be normal for anyone to walk up at any time. If possible, pick a place where it would be ok for people to bring their dog. :D

Picking someone's house for the first meeting would make many uncomfortable so avoid that....unless everyone already agrees. :P

Pick a place where your conversations will not be overheard by outsiders. You want to meet to talk about the forum, sex, animals, etc. You don't want others to overhear you. Make sure the place you choose is a place where you can talk comfortably and not worry about outsiders listening in.

Check out the suggested locations in advance if possible. Get to know the final location for sure. Post a Google map a week or so before the meeting and then again the day before so that everyone knows how to get there.

Date:
Pick a date and time that most people are able to attend. There will be some who won't be able to make the date. Don't worry about it. They can make the next one.

Rules:
Establish a set of rules for your M&G. Lay out what the expectations are. Let people know what is acceptable behavior and what is not. You want people to feel safe to meet others. (See below) :police:

Phones:
Not everyone has to share their phone number with everyone. Do it through PMs with the people you trust. Enough people should PM enough other people with their phone number so that nearly everyone is connected through someone else. (this is not required but is generally what happens)

Sex:
DON'T!! Your meeting is not about an orgy. It is about like minded people getting together and meeting for the first time. Do not have expectations of sex and remind others that the meeting is not about sex.

If, after meeting people, some want to go off on their own and engage in whatever activity suits their pleasure, then fine. Just tell them not to do it during the meeting.

If the M&G is about sex or an animal orgy, many will not come who otherwise would. Arrangements can be made for sex after the meeting if so desired.

The Law:
Get to know your state's laws regarding beastiality. In Arizona, it is not illegal. However, animal cruelty is and there are many zealots who would classify zoos as being animal abusers. So, it is still possible for a zoo to be arrested for "loving" their pet. :police:

However, it is not illegal for a group of people to get together and meet in a public place. You can "talk" about anything you want.

Ask if anyone is a cop or part of some animal rights group that will expose you or others at the meeting. When it comes to cops, by law, they must reveal themselves as such when confronted. They cannot lie about it. (Tjis is not neccessary...do it only if it is a concern for you).

Do's:
Do try to plan for who brings what. If it's a bar-b-que then have someone bring the meat, someone bring plates, someone bring drinks, ice, beer, chips, dips, chains, whips, etc. :lol:

You're the host....organize it. Don't forget about those non-meat eaters. Try to accomodate as best you can. Or tell them you can't and they should bring their own.

Do make a post reminding people that it is about meeting other people of like mind and beliefs and not about sex.

Do try to get to know those who plan to attend.

Do try to find a place where others can bring their pets.

Do be freindly to everyone.

Do establish rules that are specific to your area (see below).

Do maintain the thread and keep it active. Stay current on the planned M&G.

Do strike up the conversation when the meeting happens.

Do greet everyone who comes and ask their forum name. Those who don't give one, may not belong.

Do pick a place where conversations about beastiality will not be overheard by unwanted strangers.

Do share the success of your meeting with the rest of the forum.

Do make sure all that attend are of legal age. Meanig, if someone looks 16 and says they're 18, make them prove it.

Don'ts:
Don't pick a place that would make others unconfortable.

Don't make the meeting all about sex (see alternatives below).

Don't exclude anyone.

Don't bring a pet that will not get along. Dog's will be dogs and may bark or try to fight with other dogs. But if your dog tends to bite everyone s/he sees, don't bring them.

Don't bring weapons...or at least, keep them in your car.

Don't expect things to go perfect and everyone show up. That won't happen. Make the best of what does happen and call it a success.

Don't bring children and do not accept if others bring children. I don't have to explain this one.

Don't engage in sex with any animals, and don't allow others to, unless you are absolutley sure everyone there is cool.

Alternatives:
Everybody get naked. :lol: If you have to have your meeting at someones house, due to weather or whatever, and you want it to turn into a sexual experience, then everyone must get naked....before anything starts. Cops can't get naked and participate in any activities. So, if you have 12 feet of snow outside and you want an orgy with all your zoo freinds from the forum, then answer the door in a bathrobe and have everyone strip down from the moment they walk in. (provide extra robes if possible...or at least blankets). Even the shy, seeing others already naked, will consider participating.

Example Rules: (These were posted prior to the last AZ M&G. Adjust as needed for your area.)
1. Dogs must be on a leash. (this could change depending on who is in the area).
2. Designated drivers...we all know this one.
3. No camp fires...we all know this one too.
4. Area closes at 10:00pm...gates close so if you're inside, you're stuck till morning.
5. NO GLASS BOTTLES!! It's a $50.00 fine per bottle if caught. If you want to bring wine coolers or mixed drinks, transfer them to empty plastic water bottles.
6. No sex in sight of others. If you want to do it...there's plenty of places to walk to where you can do what you want and not be exposed to the main area...no telling who will show up and with how many kids.
7. Cross the river at your own risk. The other side of the river is White Apache Indian reservation land...it is their land and unless you get permission, you're not supposed to be there. (I've never seen trouble but it's part of the rules).
8. No cops....well duh!
9. Don't approach the wild horses or wolves....they will hurt you. (I've only seen one grey wolf there years ago but nothing since).
10. Be aware of rattlesnakes at all times!!!


Good luck with your meet and greet. Take lots of pictures and share with the rest of us. Have fun with it. :w00t: :P :lol: B)

You just got to love this guy! :heart: Beautiful Equus! :wub: Thank you so much!

thanks Equus69,
I know you all have had some success out there in AZ and that you worked very
hard on making it happen.
I hope they make this a sticky :clapping:

I think it is suppose to be.. but I dont rightly remember.. so I will leave it for southie.. :blush:

a looong overdue guide the forum desperately needed...

thanXXX so much for your gracious and generous contribution Equus :friends:

moved and pinned to the Personals section!

Thanks for the great advice Equus69 :clapping:

Thanks again Equus. Wonderful advice. I'm sure this is a recipe for success. :clapping:

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Equus *hugs*.. Wish I could have been there for you M&G.. but getting away from family to go is almost impossible *sighs*.. I am trying to plan one for my So Cal buds.. and apprieciate your advice..*hugs you again * wish me luck *G*

Great advice, Thank You very much

well worth reading thanks

Equus:
Thank you for your time and effort in making this great post and guide for everyone to follow. I'm sure it will it will help make future "Meet & Greets" successful. :clapping:

Great job! :clapping: Knowing where to start off is usually half the battle!

Thank you for sharing your experience.

Huggles :heart:

thanks so much,,oggy

:cat: Kudos to you for the info, I printed a copy for future use . I'm hoping to one day get one going for my area, k.c. mo sedalia mo, springfield mo , and everyone inbetween thats interested.