I told my ex-wife 6 months before we ended our marriage after almost 11 years...She didn't act upset when I told her but she did say she didn't want any part of it...Our marriage had been rough to begin with and we'd tried to keep it together right to the very end...
When I told my fiance` about it; we'd met online (yahoo messenger) and been talking for about 3 weeks...This particular night I decided to come clean and tell her...There was only one other person who knew I was into it which was my best friend from many years...He knew I was active and didn't care as both of us have shared many dark secrets and experiences together...Anyways...I came out and told her...She didn't type anything to me for about 3-5 mins...I figured :crazy: oh man...She's disgusted and I've scared her away...On the contrary...She types and says she had always been curious but never had brought it up to anyone...So I shared some stories and a few pics I had acquired from places online...And then she got more into it after that...We've been together now for almost 3 years and are very satisfied and happy...We love our relationship and really do hope there's others out there that have the same open-minded and trusting relationship that we have...
My mom/dad and one of my two sisters know "we're" actives...They don't think anything bad of us...It's what we're into and how we keep our relationship healthy...It's really hard to be open and honest about something such as this...But it's helped us grow and helped our relationship into one of the strongest ones we could ever ask for...:)

I couldn't have said it better myself.... :heart:

This is truly an awesome story...My spouse and I have been together for 18 yrs and two kids later...he let me in... this area was important to him, I would like to say it was some drastic thing ...It wasn't..We have know each other for so long and really like each other that it was a growing situatition for both......... however, freinds and family........they are who and what they are...we would never go outside ourselves here and share...it would not be a happy sharing


dtdab...I thanked you about maybe, 4 to 6 mon. ago......and I thank you agin.......this was the thread that hooked me to the the board....I had been lookin under my spouse and it made me have my own voice....Ther are a numbere of people here who make me want to come back everyday :inlove:

Only 1 person knows and thats my wife. When i told her 3 yrs ago she was :crazy: then :unsure: then :blink: and finally :w00t: . Fortunantly she accepted it and became part of it however she has no understanding of the Love behind it. To her its just an act she enjoys <_< , o well ya cant have everything.

wow loveyababe you always say the nicest things...your comments make me happy...thanks again :) :) :) also thank you bindis / beastycoupleincali / Natureboy for sharing your stories with us.....good stuff. :)

I'm lucky to have the support of my hubby. It is something we have enjoyed from before we were married and is one of the reasons we married in 1972. We are lucky to have some good friends who have become active through us talking quite candidly with them.My mother was active so it was something we shared untill her death.

:blink: no one else (besides here) knows. I would like to not have to hide my life, but I would not want to push anyone away either.

i am not ashamed of myself and i enjoy what i do...i have to be honest i do not share my interests with anyone except my wife...i thank her for having patience with me...(together we stand together we fall)...i,ve kept it a seceret from even my closest friends..i am a very shy person and i think if they did find out i would have to move away because i could not face them again...even thou me and my wife have great sex and she is starting to like this a lot more i think deep down she is still is offended by it and has never really excepted it and only does it for me...i hope it does not ruin our marriage and one day she can forgive me for the way i am......i hope some members have learned from this............i would like to thank all that have shared there stories...this will be my last post to this thread.

This post has been edited by dtdab on Aug 10 2005, 06:17 AM

dtdab - you are a hero for starting this thread. :clapping: :clapping:

It is very difficult, more so for women I think, to try to explain to your partner just how you feel about animals. I am very fortunate in having married a lady who, whilst she has no interest herself, is very understanding and easy going.

It is such a shame that there is so much prejudice and ignorance in the world. I have to admit that being a pagan, with a firm belief that all living creatures have souls, helps me to understand myself.

Neat thread and perhaps needs to be bumped. ;)

I am new to this forum, just surfing, looking at pics, etc. I am married, 25 yrs, and would like to see my wife do a dog. We have a fixed one, he is eager, but the wife less so. She did try a few years back when the kids were smaller, but now she is not too keen. I read in one of the earlier posts how one member felt his whole life would pass him by. Boy, did that ever hit a spot with me. It is exactly what I feel. I am not going to force my wife, but I know my sex life will never be truly fulfilled until I enjoy dogsex thru my partner, do her after the dog. ButI fear that I may never get that dream to become a reality. This is a wonderful threads, thanks for allowing me the opportunity to get this off my hairy chest.

just I know

Online, a few friends know...Mind you , i have only really been into this for a few months, if that. At first, I was :crazy: about it..but it grew on me really quick. One RT ex knows about it and was thrilled to learn that i was open to it all. (no pun intended)

I am really really really hesitant to tell people about it RT as this town is way too small.

I told my husband within weeks of meeting him, there was no way I wanted any secrets in our relationship. He was extremely understanding and told me there was nothing that I could say or do that would make him love me any less.

From then I've told my family and my close friends, which they've all been cool about it as they did kind of expect it. Sometimes I don't know why they put up with me, but hey, it's all good now.

I may not go around telling people about it, however if the subject somehow comes up in conversation, I'm not going to hide the fact I find animals sexually attractive... I personally can't bring myself to lie about it.

About a week ago I told my fiance. I was very careful, and did a little reasearch to see if he was at all receptive, by asking him if he'd ever looked at beastiality. Turns out he was ok with the idea, even interested. He's trying to help me in getting a dog and making sure I'm safe.

Before you come out and tell someone, try getting them into a situation where you confess a few secrets and see if they have ever or do have the interest. IF they say "ew gross!" best not to tell them. But who knows! They just might be into it. IF you're really close with them, I reccomend the honesty.