I would only tell my lover after I found out what his reaction would be

I would like to second this. If you want to be in a good serious relationship, you have to be honest about the person you are. Can't do that with this kind of secret in the closet. :rock:

only tell my zoo friends :)

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I say tell nobody.

i have came out to alot of friends and some of my exs and came out to one family member. I used to work at a place ans EVERYONE knew lol but it was fun :) if you have good trust worthy openminded friends i belive your in good hands ;)

I love your courage ^_^

I could never do it

I'd say to stay hidden, pretty much, but I put "Tell your lover" because if I ever have a lover who'll spend her life with me, I want her to be able to understand. It's a big pill to swallow, though. To be honest, I went back and forth with it in my mind as to whether it's "cheating" or not...or whether it necessitated open relationship, or whatever.

I think those are obviously only questions people can answer by talking about it with their human lovers. If there's no discussion on it, then there's that much less honesty and trust involved and there will be problems if it's going to be a long-term or committed relationship.

But other than your lovers? It's not really anyone's business, is it? I don't think so. I can tell you right now that 99.9999% of the world thinks it's some kind of horrible abuse or that anyone who engages in this kind of activity is a psychopath. It's best to avoid the subject entirely, because it's not likely to be accepted.

I chose "come out to friends," but it's a very touchy subject. If they're great friends, and maybe not to all of them.

It really all depends on how into it you are, too. If it's something you fantasize about sometimes, it's not really needed, and you can keep quiet about it.
If you own a dog and intend to be 'in a relationship' with him/her for their whole life, you should probably tell anyone who's going to be around you a lot, because they'll be bound to discover it sooner or later.

Something with a high "whoah!" factor found out in secret can stew around in someone's head and spread around in your social circle. If, instead, you bring it up with someone before they find out, they can ask questions and you can dispel any urban legends or horrible media stories. There's a dramatically lower chance of it ruining your life.

I voted stay hidden. I don´t think it would be a good idea to tell. I think it´s a private part of my life that i don´t feel confortable about sharing it to someone else (outside internet), even if their reaction is positive.
About my Bf/Gf, if i had one, i don´t think i will break any trust by keeping this a secret. Everybody has a private life and the right to keep it private. The relationship i have with my dog is not the same as i will have with a person (at least this is my case), so i don´t see any reason for him to be jelous, or scared that i might dump him and run away with my dog.

well my mom found out by accident :whistling: but irregardless, despite of how much she disapproved, of what i chose she loved me

This post has been edited by gentle_giant on May 25 2009, 04:13 AM

Hrm... Did you just change your avatar or have I just not yet noticed?

Also, bravo on the courage you have. I'm with moran; I'd like to do the same but just couldn't. Too much at stake for me.

sharing with your lover adds to the experience !

I voted come out to friends, as I have. Although I've come out to my lover as well, he has no interest in but but hes still totally okay with me being into that :D

I would love to be able to tell my friends or lover, but the fact is that I'm not willing to risk it. The negatives outnumber the positives so I picked stay hidden.

Maybe one day I will

I've come out to a few friends (the ones I know I can truly trust) and have mentioned it to my mum who I think had a good idea anyway. I would definitely want my lover to know but due to the situation i'm now in I would be scared to get close to someone and then tell them for fear of the problems it may cause me. And would never tell someone I don't know well for the same reasons. And as I wouldn't want a secret this large in a relationship it kind of puts me in an awkward position where unless I have a good idea someone is interested in/ok with animal sex I wouldn't bother with the relationship at all.