:unsure: I WONDER If she will ever truly understand that I'm just excited by certain things. I feel like the bad guy cause she is not into k9s like I am. I whish I could show her the positive sides of being this way but It seem that it just upsets her. So much so that we have all most broke up a few times cause I keep on saying things about dogs during sex. I would never say these things to hurt her but I would try to convince her or at least get her to try. I found out that she hates that and only wants me , I guess I can live with that… But I cant really just shut that part of me off like that. If she only new the emotions I have behind my hidden walls just cause she doesn’t understand. It kind of makes me feel alone once again. But I am truly happy with her. I would love to share all my thoughts but most of them a k9 related. She knows how I am , and that I base my day around my k9s. Well at least I used to… I guess She has changed me more then I know cause I don’t really even get active with a dog any more cause I want to share the experience. Maybe someday things will change , maybe she won't be belittled by this k9 fetish I have. I don’t know why she feels like she is in a competition with them , to be honest I just like to see a k9 and a girl play. It turns me on… Why does she think that it’s a disgusting act? Why do I obsess about dogs so much? Can any one help me figure out a happy ending to this situation or should I just drop it. And look for something else? She doesn’t mind the fact im into k9s but when ever I say anything like Oh I don’t know "I don’t think you would be able to sit still if Buster gave you the knot" She takes it personal. Like I called her a cunt or something….. I don’t understand. But when she brings it up in a fight its why do you say those things I would never say those things to you. I think to my self … " I wish you would". I don’t know what to do if anyone has any advice in this situation I've tried every way but the right way so far it seems. :unsure:

Well, this might sound a bit harse, but its my opinion, you best start looking for another human Mate.. she will never allow you to be who you are,even though you have been completely honest with her , by the sounds of it.
On the flip side of this, is that you will simply have to give up all of your life with animals that you have had before,and simply accept your new life with her. That being said, be ready for LOTS of other changes to what you may have thought was a nice way to live. This sounds like a big deal, and you had best give it more serious thought... Good luck in whatever you decide.

First off, knowing that she isnt interested (at all it would seem) why would you bring it up to her at all? Put yourself in the females place for a moment,you already said she just wants you (thats a major compliment pal) but you keep bringing up k9's in a sexual manner, to most females that would suggest that she isnt enough for you (not a good thing)
You obviously care about her otherwise you wouldnt have posted this, so simple solution, keep the 2 seperate, nobody expects you to change who you are (you mentioned only that YOU find yourself holding back) However you need to learn to balance the 2 otherwise you'll end up losing one way or the other.

Guns

I can completely sympathize. I have been seeing a woman who is 90% of everything I've been looking for. While I know that she isn't into it at all, she has been very tolerant and accepting - even going to a Furrycon and enjoying most of it. So, in a fit of madness I told her that I am a zoo. And she is struggling with it. All of her fears and doubts have rushed to the surface. She is afraid of dogs, but had put on a brave face and I had thought was doing really well and only panicking when the dogs were roughhousing or having a squabble over a toy. Now she will not even come to my house. She says she loves me and wants me in her life, but she said something that sounded close to "stop or I'll report you", and recanted when I asked if that was a threat. Every fault, weakness or imperfection is now being thrown at me while she says I'm wonderful and she feels blessed that I trusted her enough to be completely open. How great it is, and how I understand her better than her ex-husband or anyone short of her sister, while enumerating the reasons we can't be together. She says she wants to break up but also doesn't and doesn't have the strength to do it.



VVprowler - for you, let it slide. With time she may, if not pressured, get to be curious. Take the tolerance she has and run with that for now.

A few random babblings on this..................

My wonderful wife of going on 8 years also knows of this side of me. Although she does not embrace it, as long as I do not let it interfere with OUR lives, I am safe and discreet, and do not attempt to push it on her...she accepts that side side of me.

I suspect that for her it is akin to you talking desireous of another woman...making her feel she's not all she should be to you.

If it is going to work for you two, you need to decide if it is going to work for YOU, given the fact that you may no longer even discuss this in her presance. I'm not saying it will always be that extreme of a restriction...but it may be. If you can not live with that, it's probably not going to work. For my part, the fact that abiding by thet extreme restriction was nothing compared to being without her, was a BIG part of how I knew she was the ONE.

Furrst of all I just want to thank everyone for all there helpfull responce's. Its great to know that I'm not as alone as I may feel at times. Big thanks to all my friends on this forum! :) And in responce to Gunslinger its not that she is not interested but more like she is curious and I guess just needs time to adjust, Like Lugarou was saying I should probly just let it slide for now. Im not sure what it is that she is unsure of exactly. I think maybe I could ask her but then agian I dont want to offend her by doing so... And maybe I do need to figure out if its going to work for me in the long run. I dont know I'm still unsure on what exactly to do. But I do know I should give it some time I suppose. Thanx agian to every one that gives me a little feedback It really does help :unsure: ^_^

Also consider this from a former animal shelter employee and volunteer......granted that it seems that she just wants you, but there is a good chance that later on in your relationship she will say it's either her or your k9s. If it comes to that (pray it doesn't) you might end up losing your dogs over this relationship, and I don't think this is what either of you want.

Here is my advice, because it somewhat sounds like we are in a similar situation. If it ever came to the point that it's either her or the dogs, I'd stay with the dogs simply because where else would they go? If they went to a shelter they will get euthanized. Sorry to sound very harsh, but if it was me, I'd remain with the dogs. I hope everything works out for you and your relationship. I also hope that my advice is considered to be good advice.....only you can tell.

gundogman