Greetings,

I have been a long time reader of this forum but this will be my first posting, so please be kind :rolleyes:

I have had a special feeling towards animals for as long as I can remember. I have had experiences, firstly with my cousins dog and then with my own best friend until my parents had him fixed :(

Since then I have been attracted to animals, mainly dogs in a way that many ignorant people may view as being sick or disturbing.

For the past year I have been going out with this terrific lady and am now wondering if I should tell her about my secret. She is wonderful and very open minded though Im not sure how she will react.

Does anyone have any ideas on how this should be done or even if it should be done? I would also love to hear of your own experiences regarding the matter.

Thanks
+++TEF+++

Hmm I would like to enlist the saying "treading on thin ice" I'll just give you my 2 cents :)
I've had intimate relationships with my animals for as long as I can remember. But all I ever heard on the matter was the cruelty and ridicule of children at school, I never told anyone of my animal secrets and desires...for fear of rejection by society. MANY people view beastiality and zoophilia as being sick and twisted, and sometimes even cruelty. I believe its wrong to use an animal for ones own sexual gratification without any regard to the animals feelings, but as long as all partys are willing and happy then its all good :lol:
Anyway back on topic, my boyfriend whom I lost my virginity to is the most wonderful guy in the world. He found out about my beast side when he stumbled across my artwork (containing various explicit beastiality acts etc) and to my suprise instead of outrage he expressed curiosity. he find the concept of such acts with animals utterly disgusting, but he accepts that I fantasise about it, I have never tried penetration with an animal so I'm not sure how he'd react about that. But he knows that I have played around with horses. He would never get involved, but hes cool with the fact that I'm into it.

I think that relationships should be completely open and honest, and you should definently share your 'beast side' with your partner. How she will react...no one can judge that, but at least you were honest and trusting. Share with her the feelings involved...you'd be suprised how accepting people can be.

Goodluck :)

--> Cherry x

PS: LOVE the avatar!! :D

This is always a sticky subject. I had a few close friends that do not want to have anything to do with me any longer because I got drunck and told them. We were all sitting around having a great time talking about sexual things we have done. Well I mentioned a few things and the mood suddenly changed. They almost acted like I was a child molester. Really pissed me off that such good friends would turn on me like that. After about 3 months one decided that he can begin to talk to me again but the hell with him. Those type of friends I do not need.
As for women I had the chance to introduce 3 GF that I have been with to my pet dog. I pretty much always did it the same way. I left the dog in the same room as we got started. I would go to fill up some drinks and on the side start playing with his dick to get him horny. After returning he would be close by and always want to lick us. It did not always work but these 3 really got hooked on his tounge. 2 went all the way with him. If the dog is friendly and they feel comfortable around him things can happen.

Oh Yeah I almost forgot. I to love that avatar.

like the others said its a very sticky and dangorus area
i,d causally bring up the topic in greeral. to see how they react to it
without admitting your involvment iin it
like jokes or stories you,ve heard about it see ow they respond
and act accordinly. i have no close friewnds i,ve reveled myself too
my wife knows about it but not that i,m still active



HB58

Just dont tell anyone...

Not because of shame, but because there are so many closed minded people in this world.

"what do you think the guy was doing when he found you could get milk from cows?" <- just in case you need to confuse/shutup mentioned closed minded people :P

Thanks all,

I might wait a while and bring it up in general conversation to test the water before I dive in!

I always knew it was a sticky subject so thank you for your opinions it helped alot.

Cheers
+++TEF+++

sorry to burst your bubble but i really wouldnt risk it firstly there is a saying that goes what you dont know wont hurt
but if you have your heart set on it then do it very very gently i think that tykesknot is right that is a great idea still dont know where you live but you could lose more than a friend

On the subject of raising it as a joke.. you wont get true reactions that way.

Some of my friends occasionally make bestiality type jokes, but i laugh along with the rest of them at such a "ridiculous idea" ;)

If i didnt tow the "usual" line about it in humor then ppl may very quickly put a certain miniature horse owner and the fact he hasnt had a girlfriend in years together and guess :blink:

I think you have to go off just how worldly they are + how much you mean to them... maybe try something thats a pretty juicy secret but not as earth shattering and see how they take it as a test of trust.. then wait a bit.

if you start hearing rumors regarding the other business floating about then you know you shouldnt for sure.

But if she's toatally trustworthy then wooohoo!! you got a good one hang onto her :lol:

Just joined the forum, and only realized my zoo side a few years ago.
My first experience was when my neighbor/girlfriend dared me to let her dog lick me. Not until years later did I realise what that meant and that she was probably a zoo as well. (how to break it to a *partner*)
Over the past year I've told all my close friends and they havn't had any problems with it, none have the same views, but they havn't ridiculed me either. Although one won't leave me a lone with his dogs anymore.... :unsure:
As easy as it was to break it to my friends, its impossible to tell my parents. If y'all could share you experiences telling your family, it would help me out a lot.

Also, my current girlfriend lives over a thousand miles away at the moment, should I and is there an easy-ish way to do it on instant message? (only way we chat).

Thanks for any advice. :D

How to tell..... The jokes thing just isn't too reliable.

1) Just say it. be prepared to lose friends, family, lovers and be ready for a visit by police or be ready to move tomorrow. Then again, sometimes it worksout well.

2) Get into Furry, discuss it and post artworks in your house & room(s). Show Furry erotica to those you might want to "out" yourself to. If they have a bad reaction they will likely not do well with zoo disclosures.

3) If with an intimate partner - read Nancy Friday's boooks of collected sexual fantasies. "My Secret Garden", "Men in Love", "Forbidden Flowers" and to a much lesser degree "Women on top". Discuss the fantasies and see what turns each of you on.

4) See a play or rent a movie: "Equus" or "The Goat" .

5) Give friend's emails to Beastie porn sites and talk with them about how you get spammed by this stuff.

Well, I'll tell you one thing I know. If your friends are anything like me, even if they we're interested in zoo, they wouldn't admit it. Because although you may be comfortable with telling people, they still might not be. Whenever I get approached with the subject, I tend to switch the latter immediatly or reject it. In a sense, by putting up a politicaly correct wall of lies, I protect myself from those who wish to harm people like us. I hope this helps! Real trust is hard to find.

Funny I should happen across your post. I would have no way of knowing what's right for you. I just recently had this discussion with a very close friend. It was something that I never thought I"d be able to share with her, even considering all we have. She knew I had this one thing, and never pushed or made me feel bad about it. We had a very lengthy discussion about everything, and I got more and more closer. I brought up the subject of...."this one thing." Short story is.........not only did she understand, but she also shared with me that she had a few experiences too, when younger. I can't tell you what a load I felt lifted.
All I could possibly offer is......... only you know if it's right. Only you know what your motivation is for sharing this with her. If you care about her, and this is completely in the realm of sharing yourself with her.....AND...... you think you can be ok with whatever the results could be, then I would say it would be a good thing. If you have to question whether it's right.........then take your time and think carefully.
Please let us know how it comes out, what you decide. And remember, treat yourself and her gently.

Well! truthfully anyperson that has not had to go through the experience themselves. All I can say is test the water. Asks her what she thinks of zoophilia. Well I am not sure what you should do next. If positive and depends on how positive would decide on your next move.