My current girl friend is cool with being a zoo but I just got a new boy friend. I really love him and we've been seeing each other almost every chance we can get. I know I need to tell him I'm a zoo, I consider zoo right now like being gay in the 1930s. I can only think of what kind of person would it make me if I just hid it from the people really close to me, so I know I have to swallow hard and eventually maybe tell him. I never thought I'd be asking such a question considering how outgoing and social I am.
But should I? How?

i think , wrong room, but idk. :wacko:

hey -

this is a duplicate thread and yet it is never a duplicate thread because the circumstances are always the same - I am NOT going to advise you but I am going to strongly advise you to do some reading in the zoo section concerning this topic -

moved ;)

Advice?

STFU!

If you like your life as it is, don't risk a potentially life-altering bombshell, unless you already know the one you tell is a Zoo too.

This is one time honesty is NOT the best policy. Don't know where you're from, but it could even get you confinement. There's always time in the future to say something, if you're darn sure the time is right, but you can't ever take it back. Someone gets hateful and goes ballistic, it's all over town, and your school, career, family, all suffer. You're probably trying to sort this all out, but keep it here where WE understand, and will try to help. Sadly, the world isn't ready yet. (Their loss.)

:drinks:

Ditto on southflorida.......

Same advice I give everyone else:

Do not tell ANYONE you know unless you absolutely have to. They better be closer to you than anyone else (life-partner status), and you better trust them 100%. Think back, have they ever said anything even remotely intolerant, judgmental or vengeful about anything? If so, stop now and re-evaluate your relationship. If things go bad someday, are they the kind of person who would use this against you? Better be 100% sure.

OK, so you have done that and still feel the need to tell them. Go in this order and if at any time they show even the slightest bit of discomfort, STOP and re-evaluate. I would put at least a week between each of these steps. This is A LOT for even a very understanding person to take in for the first time. Be gentle and take it slow.

1) Tell them you're a furry and what it means to you. I'm assuming by your user name that you are.

2) Tell them you think watching animals mate is hot. Try to get them to watch it with you. If they think it is completely disgusting that you watch it, STOP NOW.

3) So you have lasted through the first 2 steps and gotten understanding reactions. Casually/jokingly mention "I'd sure like to be that mare/stallion/dog/bitch in that video!" If you get a bad reaction, you were only joking. STOP HERE.

4) All is well so far, then tell them you're attracted to animals. Nothing illegal about attraction, only acting on it.

5) If you've made it this far, you're probably OK to explain zoophilia and that you are one.

Good luck! And like SF said there are already many threads about this. Take some time to look around and get other perspectives.

This post has been edited by guthwulf on Nov 5 2009, 08:19 PM

If you gotta you gotta but I'd think long and hard about it if I were you. There are far, far more bad outcomes than good ones.
LtD

There is one option you have that can sorta lean them into it. I don't know how close you two are, or what your relationship is really like. This isn't something that I did, i probably did the bad thing but had a lucky outcome as of you who have read my other posts. Something to do is maybe talk about fetishes, or some strange sexual stuff you like. Then bring up this as maybe a few videos you have seen and see how they react. If they are like yea I have seen some of that, maybe on a later date you can push things forward. If they react negatively like eww gross I don't like that, then you know to like never say anything. I have done that with other topics and I think its something that may work. I don't know how your relationship is so I don't know if this works for you

I actually know where your coming from on this dude. If I was in a relationship that did seem to be starting to go seriously I would want to tell my other half as soon as I could. To me its not fair to keep something from someone you seriously think you might want to be with long term as the longer its kept in then the harder it is to say in the end.

Obviously your own circumstances are something that needs to be considered. Do you have any animals? If you don't then if things were to go bad and they start spreading stuff you can easily just say they're making it up. But if you do have animals your sexually active with then you have to consider what may happen to them if the shit did hit the fan. And it becomes much harder to deny if you actually do have pets.

Guthwulfs suggestion is good but I would say that if you tell him your a furry his initial reaction may well be that he thinks your into animals anyway. When I first started looking at furry art (and especially furry porn) I thought that the people drawing it must be into animals. Especially those artists with a very good eye for accurate anatomical details. I know now that isn't the case but only because of the time I have spent on furry websites.

I'm not trying to encourage you to just blurt it out without thinking as thats never a good idea. You know your situation better than we do and you have to decide what you think is best. I have told several close friends and none of them has cared in the slightest about it. I also told my GF when we were together. Eventually it became one of several things that caused us to split, but luckily she never tried to use it to cause problems. Though if she had I would have just said she was trying to get me into trouble. As she didn't actually have any proof at all.

But THINK is the biggest thing. And make sure that your happy with the decision you make.