hi im 19 bi fem and just joined the forum to find someone to talk to about this lifestyle since ive had my first time not to long ago and now im kinda lost. i dont own a dog i was dog sitting when it happend. but now its like stuck on my mind i think about it everytime, i cant even sleep and im ashemed of myself i wish i can take it back :( feel free to pm me if you have any suggestions
thanks

Well thats what were here for sweet heart and welcome :) As always read the rules first :P What exactly are you lost about? If you use the search bar you can find all kinda of information from people with similar experiences. I know when i first did it i wanted it. Others thought they were mentally prepared for it but ended up feeling ugly about themselves. Its ok it happens though. What you want to find out is if you would want to continue doing this or not. And if not is ok we appreciated you dropping by here :) Always ask for help we are not here to criticize. :heart:

i think its its great you are intrested but aska way we are always happy to lend a hand or I would love to chat with any time

Well Miranda this is always hard. Many people are often programmed from an early age to be ashamed about sex or certain kinds of sex. It may be helpful to remember that sex and sexual feeling are perfectly natural part of being alive. Further your k9 partner that got you started certainly feels no shame about what happened nor does he/she look down on you for giving them some mutual pleasure. You need to look inward and throw away your "shame" about this. Learn to come to grips with your feeling and realize that what you are feeling are just another part of you, like a finger nail or eye lash is part of you. Also remember that you are not alone. The fact that places like this forum exist with people like us to talk too is proof of that. So you are not unusual in your feelings. Here at the very least you are quite normal. Don't be afraid to explore this side of your nature. Just be careful of how you express this part of yourself in public. For there are many closed minds that would not hesitate to hurt us because we are not afraid to love a species other than our own. Good luck. B)

I think alot of people feel initial shame at doing something for the first time as its so well pushe don people that what you did is wrong because society dictates that it is.

The only person who can stop you feeling guilty is yourself in the end, if you enjoyed what happened then you enjoyed it and thats all that matters, I assume no-one knows you did it so no-one is judging you for it except yourself.

I would suggest you just take a step back and really think about what you did, what you felt at the time and just take a deep breath to calm down and stop being so hard on yourself

First, I'll say welcome to the forum and get that out of the way... :D

Second, yes, society does tend to try to make us feel ashamed of actions that fall out of "normal" acceptability. I was raised by a very traditional Roman catholic family. Masturbating is a sin, homosexuality is a sin, beastiality is a sin, and anything outside of having lots of babies without protection with your wife in missionary possition is a sin. Well, somehow, my parents have "adapted" to today's society without going nuts and splashing holy water into the face of strangers and putting burning crosses to their forehead.

So, it's hard to move outside the box and feel comfortable. I remember my first time and I freaked out too. Course, probably wouldn't have been so bad if I hadn't done it outside in plain view of the neighborhood. My animalistic nature just sort of came out and I let it control my needs and actions. It could have been worst, all I did was make out heavily with my dog as I masturbated him off. At least someone didn't take pictures of him knotted inside of me to show my parents... >.< Still, that didn't keep me from questioning my actions and my sanity at the time. It took me a long time to accept that day and my feelings for animals. But, I believe that in the questioning myself and seeking a deeper knowledge, I have come to a point that I accept my true self and no longer feel ashamed. I have come to know that what I do with my partner is a spiritual connection that we share together. What we do together is for the other's enjoyment and pleasure. I don't need to glorify or justify my actions to anyone else to have a feeling of rightousness. The greatest satisfaction I have is in knowing that my partner is happy, safe, and content.

I consider myself a zoo lifestyler. Not everyone can do that. Some people try it, aren't satisfied, and then move on. I admire them for being honest with themselves. An animal is a living, breathing, feeling being. They are NOT a piece of plastic, rubber, batteries, or latex. Yes, it's awkward the first time and there's lots of fumbling around. It's a discovery for you both to find what the other one likes and needs.

I wish you many bright days and may peace and love surround you always. What you have done is nothing to be ashamed of and nothing that can be wished back. If you feel you have done something wrong or you hurt your animal friend, take comfort in knowing that animals unlike us humans, are quick to forgive you and love you back. If you truely wish to stop, it's up to you then to not push yourself back into a situation that you know will make yourself uncomfortable. Seek inner peace and knowledge, you will find them if you look hard into yourself. Peace out.

HyBrithe Resurgam

troll? :cool2:

Hello Miranda, welcome to our group. energydog has put this into the right context.
I am sure you have read the FAQs pages by now. Do your research and learn about other people's experiences. There is no need to feel shame, for you this is quite natural.
I am sure you did not feel shame when you discovered you are bi, this is just another part of your sexuality. It may take a while to fully accept this is who you are. Hang in there, don't be too hard on yourself and remember, you do have friends here in whom you can confide. Feel free to PM me if you feel talking to an older man will be of any help.

ummmm where :huh:

thanks everyone (except james) for your comments they helped with my emotional state, and i will keep you updated if anything happens since i dog sit for my neighbours quite a bit .

Welcome to the club.

It's pretty common to feel guilty about doing anything taboo . . . but then you have to question what "taboo" is and who decides what "taboo" is. Where I live, it's been decided that two HUMANS who love each other can't get married because being gay is taboo (yep, I live in CA).

But since I've been on the internets for about 15 years, and about 14 of those years being a part of one zoo/beast community or another (I lurked a lot), you find that there are MANY people who do this, and there is a HISTORY of it.

I tend to think that the people who make the "taboo" rules are closed minded and rather silly.

You are not hurting the dog, and if you share mutual pleasure, than what is wrong with it?

Hi Miranda - I'm a newbee too !! Just had my very first "experience" and I am now buzzing !! The guilt has gone ( went with the first orgasm). I do understand BUT its your right to try whatever you want - if you don't want it again then fine, just move on. I too just found myself getting thoughts when dog sitting for a friend, then panicked at the thought, then rationalised it and finally had a go. Then panicked again but I am now fine !! Don't beat yourself up - its all OK - we girls sometimes think too deeply especially about guilt. As for me, I'm planning my next "experience" - frankly I can't wait !!
:angel:

welcome to the board. BTW be ready for alot of guys to PM u asking to hook up lol. also, u might wanna edit ur pics so they dont show too much of your face. u never know if u might be recognized in public.

This post has been edited by alannah.hottie on Jun 27 2009, 10:19 PM

:o ashamed ?
oh no !!!
Sorry Miranda,Nothing to be ashamed of.There are Alot of girls that Enjoy fun with doggies ;)
You aren't going to be 'shamed' by the folks here.Too many of us Enjoy girls enjoying dogs :D I do.I think it's Really HOT! :wub:

Alannah had some good suggestions.She's been here for awhile.I'm sure she gets more PMs then she can go thru.


oh,and Welcome to BF !! Hope you enjoy your stay and make a Few friends here.

This is just a new way to Enjoy sex.Yeah,it's with a dog.so what ? ;) You enjoy girls too,some folks think thats 'wierd'.Same thing with enjoying a dog.It's a bit different.

No,you are NOT the only girl to do this.
Yes,it is VERY enjoyable,is supposed to be.so Enjoy it :)
No,you are NOT a freak,just more open-minded then most folks.
and..some people think you enjoying a dog ROCKS! :rock:

This post has been edited by MrAdvocate on Jun 28 2009, 08:21 AM

welcum, you're very beautiful, by the way
and any chance you could tell us (or just me) what happened?