I miss you Gran ........ 20 years later and I still wish I had the chance to tell you one more time how much I loved you and what an incredible woman you were. Your sudden passing taught me one thing ..... you can never tell those you love often enough how much you love them ...... you may not get the chance tomorrow.

Grandad ..... taken so early and in your prime .... murdered .....I wonder what you were really like though history recalls you well. You would be proud of your children and your widow ...... she raised them well. I met the man who shot you many years ago ..... I didn't know who he was then ..... probably just as well. Mary Anne ....... the 7th child still born at the shock of your sudden death ...... rest in peace little one .....

Nan ..... so many years spent apart ...... guess that's what's happens when your daughter marries someone from another country and she raises her family there. I wish you had known who I was when I saw you last .....

Grandpa ........ did you know I was there holding at your hand at the end ..... could you hear me talking to you ...... I'd like to think so. Silly silly man ...... all those wasted years for what ? It hurt you as much as it hurt me. Thank you for the lessons though ....... I will not make the mistakes you did and suffer for them.

All of you gone ...... none of you forgotten

:crying: C1l : that was beautiful.. I don't know my grampa much for I was only 6 yrs old when he passed..I miss my dad who passed away last yr allot..I have allot of regrets that. I wasted allot of time not listening to what he had to say(we were too much alike).I miss all the bantering we got into(loud discussions at times)the work we did accomplish together..I really do miss him..I LOVE YOU DAD!!!.

I am not good at this at all.... and before I start crying .. again... beautiful words by all here.
There have been a number of deaths in my family - I hold a special thought and prayer for each of you in my heart.
Thank you someguy.

Huggles :heart:

On today, Memorial Day in the USA, I want to remember my family members and Friends that have served
I have one uncle who is 93 years old, who served in 3 wars, WWII, Korea and Vietnam, he has been decorated several times and met a couple of presidents.
A nephew in US Army Special Forces, served in Afganistan and Iraq
Both are still alive and well

I took time today to remember several cousins and family Friends who died in combat in Vietnam and an uncle in a WWII German prison camp

Everyone gave something, some gave everything

For the last 24 years Memorial Day weekend has been a very tough time for me. What should be a great time of the year here in my part of the world, with the unofficial kick off of summer it is actually a rather depressing and unhappy time.

For you see, 24 years ago May 25, my eldest brother (who at that time was just 24 years old) had a massive heart attack and died. Never really sick a day in his life, no real symptoms, just one big heart attack (at age 24 all of his coronary arteries were 90% or more blocked).

Being so young myself, and not really ever dealing with death prior to this; my grandmother passed away when I was 12 but I was too young and probably too naive to understand the reality of it at that point, my brother's death was my first truly understandable dealing with death.

You question many things when such a young person, someone who had just started a family, someone who had a baby boy who just turned 6 months old the day he died, you question why would anyone or any being do something such as this? How can this be what is best, what good in the over all scheme of things in life does this bring?

Well I still can't completely answer that question and I probably never will be able to do so other than to say; I can tell you that I did learn the value of just how precious and fragile life is. How we can be here one day and gone the next without a blink of an eye. Nobody is invincible, nobody has a free ride, and nobody knows when it will be there time. So live life to the fullest, treat others with respect and be a genuine, sincere and honest person.

So to all my friends here on BF, may each day be your most happy.

Love,

Foxi

R.I.P. my dear brother and rest assured that your wonderful son has grown into a very responsible and respectable man. I am sure this is because you are his guardian angel up above.

Edited at risq's request

This post has been edited by pick_7 on May 30 2008, 09:47 AM

Thanks hornyinsocal ....... *hugs*. I might cry myself if I add anything further.



*smiles softly having read the posts since* ...... sometimes there is nothing you can add to what people have said because words seems so ..... inadequate.

We don't have a Memorial Day in Ireland ...... not sure whether that's a good thing or not in some ways.

*gazes out the window thougthfully* ........ my thoughts are with all that have suffered loss ....... and especially those that were reminded of it recently.

Pop-Pop Smith:

Though I never knew you personally, because you died before I was born, I still feel you deserve to be mentioned. He died of heart and lung cancer because he was a heavy smoker. This caused my Mom-Mom to quit and she's still alive, at the ripe age of 76. I also want to mention my father's grandmother, who died a few years ago from a coma induced by Alzeimer's Disease. For you two, I give this memorial.

For my Friend J, even though you never believed it, the world is a much sadder place without you :(

1963- June 9,2008

'Suicide is Painless'
Music by Johnny Mandel Lyrics by Mike Altman

http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=ICiFnQrHOrk

Through early morning fog I see

visions of the things to be

the pains that are withheld for me

I realize and I can see...

[REFRAIN]:

that suicide is painless

It brings on many changes

and I can take or leave it if I please.

I try to find a way to make

all our little joys relate

without that ever-present hate

but now I know that it's too late, and...

[REFRAIN]

that suicide is painless

It brings on many changes

and I can take or leave it if I please.



The game of life is hard to play

I'm gonna lose it anyway

The losing card I'll someday lay

so this is all I have to say.

[REFRAIN]

that suicide is painless

It brings on many changes

and I can take or leave it if I please.



The only way to win is cheat

And lay it down before I'm beat

and to another give my seat

for that's the only painless feat.

[REFRAIN]

that suicide is painless

It brings on many changes

and I can take or leave it if I please.



The sword of time will pierce our skins

It doesn't hurt when it begins

But as it works its way on in

The pain grows stronger...watch it grin, but...

[REFRAIN]

that suicide is painless

It brings on many changes

and I can take or leave it if I please.


A brave man once requested me

to answer questions that are key

is it to be or not to be

and I replied 'oh why ask me?'

[REFRAIN]

'Cause suicide is painless

it brings on many changes

and I can take or leave it if I please.

...and you can do the same thing if you please




May you rest in the peace that you never found in life

Hugs to you Pick7 it is never easy when someone feels like they are unloved or unwanted. No one should have to. So RIP to your friend and all the others I hope they all found the peace and happiness they were missing. :friends:

sorry to hear of Your loss Pick *hugs*

This thread has jus brought tears to my eyes. :crying: September 28th 2007,I was woken in the night by two Police officers that had come to break the news to me that my one and only child,Kristy,had been tragically killed in a head on collision on her way home from visiting me.
This news literally tore me apart,so much,that I wanted to end my own life ,just so that I could be with her.
I was ,in a way,blaming myself for her loss. I should have insisted that she stay the night,I should not have bought her a Subaru WRX,I should have been there for her when she was growing up,all kinds of things were playing on my mind.
May I take this opportunity to thank my very good friends Justy,Foxi,C1L,Puppylove413 and Sunflower23 for being here for me,to help me pick up the pieces.Your kind words and thoughts are what have stopped someone for mentioning me in this thread :heart: :angel:

It's what friends are for bullet :friends: *cuddles*

wasnt gonna reply because i didnt think it was needed but didnt want to think it was ignored either :wacko:


Puppy is right friends will always be there so thanks arent needed the thanks are in the fact Your here Your living life and Your enjoying it just as Kirsty would have wanted



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my friend bullit69: my prayers go out to you for your loss.. I know the emptyness your felling my dad passed away in Aug..thank the good lord for stopping you from doing yourself harm, for he has other plans for you here..there are others that might need you now.. so take care and comfort in my thoughts and prayers, and if you need to talk , I'll (and everyone here) will be here for you..horny in so cal..