What would you do if you confided in your girlfriend/boyfriend that you looove bestiality and then they refused to participate, or forbid you from doing so yourself? Would you leave that person or stay with them and forget your passion?

moved to zoophilia

I don't know. It's a part of my sexuality, but I never really act on it. It wouldn't really phase me as much. Well, unless it was something they make a huge fuss over. Then I'd get out of that relationship. It's kind of hard to get rid of the passion though. I've tried to do so before, still unsuccessful.

:oops: Sorry Pick

Sometimes I feel like a total fraud being on this forum, because I'm really little more than a zoo voyeur. That is, while I'm incredibly aroused by the thought of women with animals, excited by the imagery, and would love to watch my girlfriend enjoying such experiences, I don't have the same desire or compulsion of many of the others here. At present, I don't have any desire to be sexually intimate with an animal, and while I might be disappointed if my partner wasn't in the lifestyle and was adamantly against the idea of exploring and experimenting, it wouldn't be a dealbreaker for me. It might only become a problem if she found me repulsive because of my kinks (any of them) and said she didn't want me watching bestiality-related porn.

That said, I think any time your significant other expressly demands or forbids, they're attempting to execise control that isn't theirs, attempting to dominate your life. And that's always a bad sign, suggesting some serious, underlying emotional or psychological issues, a need to control or change you rather than accepting you as you are. And that would certainly be cause to reconsider the relationship.

However, it's a little different if they simply state their feelings on the matter, making no demands or requests upon you, but explain how they feel, how your kinks or needs make them feel, whether they can handle it or not, and then leave it in your hands to decide whether you'll respect their feelings and abstain - entirely at your choice, because you're willing to make the sacrifice because you love them and need them more than you love/need the other - or, perhaps regrettably, conclude that the relationship needs to end because, as much as you may love them, you can't live without fulfilling that other part of your needs and desires.

I think of it in terms of other alternate lifestyles, like bisexuality or polyamory. While I have no problem dating or being involved with a woman who's bisexual or polyamorous, I make it clear that I'm a diehard monogamist who would only be able to handle a monogamous relationship. I don't hold her bisexuality or polyamorous nature against her, but to be with me she'd have to forgo those other impulses. I wouldn't forbid her to be with other women, or have multiple lovers, but she'd be aware of the fact that we couldn't have a relationship if she did so. More times than not, though, such relationships don't work out, because the incompatibility is often too great, because it's not about merely giving up kinks but about denying who you are, sacrificing a part of yourself. Most people can't do that and, even if they do, if their partners truly love them, they inevitably feel guilty because of it.

I could sacrifice little pleasures, sexual kinks, and trivial desires, but I could never sacrifice who I am. So, I think it's a question of whether bestiality and the zoo lifestyle is just kinky sexual fun, or if it's an intrinsic part of who you are.

kinda, happened. I told her and she was fine with the idea that i was attracted to animals. However when i said i wanted a dog just as a pet she said no, because she didn't want to have to watch her back... As you could imagine a few months later we broke up. Shows a lack of trust. If she said it was fine to have a pet then we might still be together, but that is not the case.

Refusing to participate is one thing I could easily accept, but if they were completely disgusted by the idea then I don't see how a relationship would be possible.

I agree with Shy. It would be great if they would participate, but if they did not want to, fine. I couldn't deal with them not accepting my lifestyle. Would most definetly show them the door.

I don't really know if I would keep the relationship going or not. My thing is, I've had to deny myself sexual kinks all my life, so if my partner didn't like that I liked looking at animals, I can't say I would break off the relationship. I wouldn't want to, as I get attached easily to humans.

Now, there are other aspects of my sexuality that if asked to give up I would have to end the relationship, but I don't think bestiality is one of them. Like, for instance, I like anal sex. A LOT. And if I was asked to give that up, I would be very hard-pressed to keep the relationship going. That's one of the reasons I broke up with my last gf. That, and she was a :badwords:

Like others have said, participation and acceptance are two different things. If my g/f does not join me in my intimate relationship with a dog then it's her choice and I can't hold that against her. If she refuses to accept the fact that I also enjoy the company of our four legged friends then that's just her own ignorance....and she would have to go. The g/f and I have had many a conversation about this topic. I'm into animal sex...and she's not...she's into that painful sex where people hurt each other and what not...but I'm not. To each their own ^_^

Not trying to be mean or anything, but you should have left her then. If my boyfriend ever told me I could not have something I really wanted (something feasible, of course) I'd be pretty pissed.

Anyways, before I told my boyfriend I was into this, I often wondered what would happen if he was disgusted by it.
If they are trying to change you then, there are two options I can think of: leave him/her for not accepting you for who you are or deal with it and stay in the relationship, possibly unhappily.
If they accept it but don't like it, don't push it on them. Do whatever you do in private, but don't try to get them involved, and it should be okay.

I agree with what doggycurious said.

Now having someone who is willing to participate too, that's ftw! :wub:

/\ /\ /\ /\-by the way I love that avatar missy. Yeah im kind of at a crossroad. I just recently told my girlfriend about my desire and passion for dogs and she looked at me with disgust and then ask if I was joking. I told her that I would love it if she wanted to give it a try but she said no, that she never would try it. Nothing to me would be hotter then watching her give oral to a dog this would just be the ultimate. Unluckly I will nver get the oppertunity with her. Even if she wanted to have sex with animals I don't think she'd be able to because shes got a tipped cervix so during intercourse I have to be really gental and slow, and I don't think theres a dog out there that has slow, sentuous sex, their animal instincts prohibit them from this I think.

This post has been edited by BeastMagicOne on Mar 18 2008, 06:18 PM

I went through this myself once...my ex fiance at first said he liked the idea and would be fine if I wanted to continue, but as time went on he got second thoughts and said he didn't want to see me do anything, he said I could do whatever I wanted when he wasn't around but he didn't want to catch wind of anything going on...then when I tried to get a dog, he forbid it.

We broke up for a seperate reason, he cheated on me, but I look back now and figure we would have gone seperate ways for the reason of him forbiding me to have a dog after giving his permission for me to have animals and do what I'd like when he wasn't around. His signals were hugely mixed, and anytime I'd try to talk to him about it he'd never give the conversation a chance.

My feelings for animals are a part of me, a very strong part, I've actually fallen in total love with an animal before the way I fell in love with my human fiance, so it goes very deep. It's not a fetish or a kink for me, it's a part of me and it's not something I'm willing to do without for the rest of my life.

"To thine own self be true" Words I wish I'd have taken to heart, but the outside world has a way of slowly taking pieces of you away, if you let it. At least that is how it went in my case. I think I am finally getting back to who I am, and it is bittersweet; but I would not have it any other way.

Glad you followed your heart EV, and I do mean heart because I agree with you completely that it is an emotional thing, which runs deep; despite what others may think. Hurts to loose someone you love, for whatever the reason; but at least you didn't turn away from who you are; that is more important than anything in the world. :heart:

agree. if the don't want participate, it's fine by me, i don't want to make them. but if disgusted, the door is there. i can't just break up with zoophilia, it's a part of me, but i wont confess to anyone, i'm sacred. living in small village,it's not wise.