"She handed me a heart-shaped locket that said 'to thine own self be true'"

I have no doubt that you tried your best not to lose yourself hun, sometimes it feels ok to change and let things go...it's not till later that you feel it may have been too much and that you don't feel like quite yourself anymore.

You still have plenty of time to find those pieces again and put them back where they belong, I'm sorry it has to bittersweet, I'm sorry so many things in life have to hurt, but you'll make it to end of your journey to be true to yourself too. :heart:

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I can not help you to decide which of the alternatives to choose.
First, you have outed yourself. ( In doing that you took the risk of loosing her, or her telling the world )
Second she has laid down her demands.
She will not participate with your fetish and you are to forgo your association with animals.
You will have to decide weather you abstain from your fetish forever and live with her. But if you live together you would be taking the risk that at some point of time she could get upset about something and use your past as a weapon against you.
If you chose to continue with your fetish and reject her then she could still out you too the world.
You are differently between a rock and a hard place.
I wish you well in what ever you decide.
Many years ago I was in a situation where people had their suspicions about me and my companion, my decision was to relocate.

This post has been edited by st benard on Mar 18 2008, 07:49 PM

Well its the big decision those of us who long for human mates as well all come to. Whether to come out to our human partner or not. For those that do there is always great risk involved. Not just the risk of being outed, but the even greater risk of being asked to abstain. I personally would not choose to stay in any relationship where a partner would ask, or even demand that abstain from my own basic sexuality in thought and action; because they could not sympathize with it. If they are so selfish as to not try to accept that which is a quintessential part of me, then do they truly love me at all?
Further is the fact, that it is practically impossible to separate such a basic component of our personalities from ourselves. Its like asking me, by sheer mental force of will, to simply make my left arm drop off. It can't be done, not forever. Even if it could, should it be done? Where is the justice in a relationship where one partner dictates everything, sympathizes not one bit for the other partner; and forces the other partner to do the impossible for them. That is NOT a relationship, that is slavery. To enslave yourself for some perceived love is foolish. Love should give joy, not unhappiness. When you start having to give up of your basic nature to try obtain love, you'll never grasp it. It should be there largely from the start, or it will never be truly there at all.

True, taking such a stance may limit your options. But at least they'll be your options and not someone else's.

Why is this any different from say demanding monogamy of a bisexual partner?

I didn't bring up the subject, but was caught red handed with our female dog. I was given an ultramation, stop having sex with the dog or divorce. I chose to stop having sex with the dog. In fact we gave the dog away, so the temptation was removed. After my wife passed away, I had the opportunity to try it again. As the saying goes, try it you'll like it. I tried it and I liked it to the point I got a female Lab, that also likes it.

my gf accidentally came by me and my ex girlfriends stash of material on the subject and freaked out to the point where she was about to leave the country, loving her as much as I did I lied about the fact that I too had been into it. Although it ended up costing me her love in the end anyway since she never really got over it.

i don't think i could have a long term relationship with a boyfriend/girlfriend that did not share my zoo interests.

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I think that I would forget her, and move on!!
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The 2 times that I have "jokingly" broached this subject with my girlfriend were nearly disastrous. She is deffinetly NOT into it and I don't see her ever being into it. If I told her that I like to watch the stuff she would probably show me the door. That's fine, zoophilia is not that important to me. Honestly, I don't want anyone or anything screwing that woman but me, myself, and I. I am more of a zoo voyeur and can be satisfide without it as long as my girl puts out for me, which she gladly does, I'm pretty good in bed for a noob at sex. I've made her cum 3 time in a row with just my hand and some cuddling :D and so far have not dissapointed when it comes to giving a good dicking. I'm not giant in that department, but I'm well above average AND I focus on giving her hers before I get mine as that song "Sexual Eruption" says.

<I tried adding this to the end of my last post, but it wouldn't let me>

I prefer human companionship and relations over animals, though I would not mind having a pet (small breed dog like a terrier (she wants a Pomeranian)). For sex, humans are the best in my oppinion.

Well its obviously not a stretch for you since it seems you are not a primary zoophile. But rather a voyeuristic bestialist. There is nothing wrong with that, but as a component of your personality it is, as you yourself have admitted, a minor one that can be easily suppresed or given up. Good luck my friend.



P.S. Pomeranians RULE!!! :rock: :rock:

I don't prefer humans over animals or animals over humans why shouldn't we be able to ahve both?

I also consider my sexual tendencies towards animals something that I could turn off and something that I probably will turn off when I get together with my next girlfriend. to me they are simply one of my kinks among many, but what I really desire is a long term human female mate. chances are slim that that person will be a zoo, and unless that was the reason we met (ie, through this website) then I have no desire to tell them. if the wrong person got a hold of that information I could immediately lose my job, and be shunned by probably everyone I know and love. getting off is not worth it.

Told several of my GF's that I was into animals, none of them joined in but neither did any of them freak out and run away screaming.
None of them have been interested in participating, or watching, or anything like that... they just accepted what I was, how I was, and that being zoo is as much a part of what defines me as my skin, and about as easy to shed.

None of them, not one, has ever forbid me or asked me to change. A couple have expressed some ill ease with the thought of being with me after an animal, tho... until after I had showered.

I'd say it ll comes down to whether you love the person enough or not. If you truly love the person more than dog sex it shouldn't be all that difficult to stop with the dog...If not, well ,end the relationship...