waaa! :stupid: :trout: :boxing:

anyspank, i've told only my clan on runescape

but im pretty sure that my lil bro knows... whenever anyone makes a zoo joke, he allways looks straight at me :thinking:

I've only told my ex and two of my most trusted friends. Well, one of them is really trustworthy, the other one is just really tolerant of everything. The thing is, you have to evaluate who is good at keeping the important things to themselves. None of those three think any differently of me, except that I've got a weird fetish. It's really not that big of a deal to tell your close friends if the time is appropriate, but you also have to take into account how sexually devious they are and thus tolerant.

:D The only one that knows is my wife. I was honest, to the point. Now does she share the same interest. Kinda. There have been a few occasions where she has encouraged a nice liking(on me) but not her. After that its been a lot of giggles and teases :rolleyes: I hope to keep this type communication going until we are well old and grey. :)

Some good friends know it but they share the same interests as well. Apart from that I haven't told anyone. I still consider this a private thing and in addition to that, people who don't have those feelings can't understand you. They only might tolerate you. So I keep this mostly for myself.

Several of my friends know, and my last several relationships have included me admitting my interests and being accepted and encouraged. :)

As other forum members have already said, you've either got to be pretty sure of the way the person that you want to tell about your sexual preferences is going to react, or be prepared to be sharply critasized. I would say that you've got to know a person extremely well before you can broach a highly delicate topic like this one. I have known my former girl friend for 34 years and I was quite sure that she would understand if I told her. When I actually told her about my very close relationship with Shadoe, she was as supportive and totally understanding about the situation as I thought she'd be.
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She even made the comment that it was the most beautiful love story between a man and a dog that she had ever heard of, and she felt that Shadoe knew my own feelings even better than I knew them myself.

On the other hand, my ex-wife also really loves animals especially dogs and cats, and she is always talking about how closed minded people are about spirits and reincarnation and about paranormal phenomena in general not to mention blindness. So, I took my cue from that statement and figured she'd be open minded enough to handle my confession. She wasn't!

I happened to mention a certain person that I felt had become a friend that I was in touch with via E-mail and naturally she wanted to know how I first became acquainted with this person. When I simply mentioned this forum to her she became absolutely disgusted and she started lecturing me for five minutes on how wrong it is to force animals to have sex. I tried to explain to her that it isn't forcing them at all but she wouldn't listen, and she kept saying, "Oh those poor poor animals" over and over again.

Of course, one thing that I hadn't taken into consideration when I attempted to make my confession to her was that several times while she's been talking to men on one of the telephone dating services that she is a member of, she has been asked by several men if she's ever had sex with her guide dog. I guess she always laughed it off and thought, "O well, I guess it takes all kinds and these guys are just really kinky." I realize now that it was a mistake to tell her about it, but thankfully it hasn't effected our relationship any, and I think she's forgotten about it by now. So, I got one positive and one negative reaction and I don't think there's anyone else that I'd ever tell. I'd certainly NEVER tell anyone in my family because I'm sure that no one in the family would be able to begin to understand it. So you do have to be extremely careful who you tell anything like this to if you tell anyone at all.

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I have come out to friends and some family. The reactions varied from indifference to indescribably bad. I'm not sure I'll get past it with some people. It makes me sad to know people I love and care about have rejected me in such a fundamental and personal way...

it was notice a few years ago, me looking at stuff like this. they may think i dont anymore. the only people i talk to about it is you guys :)

My first admission was was to my neighbor that introduced me to animal k9 sex. The second was to two school mates with several animals. The third was a neighbor. We both had female k9s, That we had sex with during their heats. My next was after being caught by my wife, having sex with a female Irish Setter. I had to confess to a counselor. Admitting to only that one incident. Much later I admitted to the wife that I had sex with another Setter over about three years, during her heats. If the truth was to be told, after she had her first litter, I actually had sex with her when ever we could get alone. There were actually three others that were never told to anyone.

This is exactly why it isn't a good idea to tell other people about our lifestyle. We may dismiss this member's for being a troll, but many people do indeed share this attitude. Even our your parents or siblings may feel the same. So be very careful about to whom you come out to with this.

Personally I waited until the day my hubby proposed to me. I was prepared to stop being active if he objected. Then again our relationship was already based on being sexually open, so I already felt that admitting this to him wouldn'd freak him out too much.

However if I knew it was something that would deeply offend him, I would never had told him.

I have told my fiance and my best friend and they were both completely accepting of it and don't think any differently of me than before. I am very glad that I told them both. It's a great feeling to know that someone loves and cares for you so much that they can fully and trully accept you for who you are and how you feel even when society says it's wrong. It is also really nice to be able to talk about it with the people you love. But before you start planning a coming out party, bear in mind that I was very lucky and many people would not handle such information very well. It's up to you to judge whether or not it's a good idea to tell someone, but if they handle it well it can be the best thing you ever do. Personally, I think that if you are in a serious relationship with someone then they deserve to know who you really are, but that's up to you.

Oh, and if you do tell someone and they freak out or think less of you for it, then that's their problem and their loss! There's nothing wrong with you (unless you are hurting your animal partner), they just cannot open their eyes wide enough to see that love is too strong to be contained by any barrier, even the species barrier.

I told a girl who I was pursuing. Interestingly enough, she wasn't as disgusted as I was expecting.

Perfect! :lol: Really, the one who _needs_ to know is your significant other...preferably before he/she says "I do" but after you two have become engaged.

Get it? No secrets between husband and wife! Trust me, a 13 year marriage with her NOT knowing was alot worse than if I had just told her and had her say no to marriage (and I wouldn't have had to deal with a 150k divorce) :crying:

My fiancee knows and she's not zoo at all. She loves me _more_ for being honest with her with such a taboo subject. She even helped me buy my lovely mare a little while back B)

That's wonderful :rolleyes: Thank you for sharing that with us. :clapping:

I agree with everyones statments on this thread.

Good insight from smart people.

One thing I've learned is people who hate us live there lives in fear.

I've have personally told a small group of close friends.

All excepted me as who I am, not what I am by what I do.

Only one person, my friend sylvie, said she accepted me and my life style.

But alas, our friendship has become cold and distant.......

We live our lives the way we want, with love and compassion.

To hell with those who cannot see our goodness.


My 2 cents.

-Chaz.