Ive never met anyone into the zoo lifestyle in person. Only chatted with people from here online. Not that I wouldnt maybe meet up with someone. I dont have much of a personal life outside of zoo, let alone with other zoo's. Just dont meet many people and have too much stuff going on right now.

I'm glad that you brought this topic up, because it has been in the back of my mind for a very long time. I constantly think about it, but the very act of going about contacting people for real freaks me out. Having read all the posts here gives me some confidence, therefore, I think I'm going to go for it. Wish me luck!

by this site :P

I've met several people from MD and FL off of this site so far, just on the personal level of meeting good friends from the net in RL ^_^

This post has been edited by EnigmaticVixen on Feb 5 2008, 10:10 PM

I'm always slow to meet anyone from the net as my safety comes first aside from anything else.

I'm meeting my first person from here next week which I'm looking forward too ^_^ . I have met people through a different forum in person before ..... some went on to be good friends .... one I had a relationship with for about a year .... a few others we just didn't hit it off for various reasons.

I only move from PMs to IM when I feel comfortable enough to do so. At some stage we'll chat using webcams purely to see the person is who they say they are and the picture they sent you isn't 10 years old or something ... or of someone else.

Before I meet someone I get them to provide their name, address, contact number and I will verify these. Genuine people will have no problem doing this and I will for example google search them or check the phone book to make sure the details are correct.

If you're going to meet the first time should be in public, daytime for a coffee or something. That way neither of you are under any obligation and go your seperate ways aftr an hour or so if yuo want too. You should leave details with a trusted friend of where you're going and who you're meeting ..... you don't have to tell them what kind of site you met this person on.

So far this approach has always worked for me and I'm still alive to tell the tale !

id love to meet others and there pets but only descete please anyone in mid ga. send pm ... lets talk about it and then well maybe you know..

Since zoo is still a finicky topic in society, I think one should always be careful with who to meet in RL. It is always better to get to know that person better and over a longer period of time before meeting in RL. In my case there have been only a few meets so far and they happened after knowing each other for some time. And I haven't been disappointed or made bad experiences.

energydog wrote: "I am extremely shy, defensive with other people. I've been dealt a bad hand with my physical appearance and attributes"

energydog, in many ways I envy you. Please don't think me rude, but I have had the opposite problem. I was dealt a rather favorable appearance / attributes by human standards and I don't want them. Nobody can understand why I'm single because of it! I constantly have to try and explain it away. :(

imagine... women hit on me and when I turn them away word gets around... and then the men figure I must be gay so they hit on me :lol:

I get invited to dinners or to parties allot and all I 'really' want to do is stay home and spend what little free time I have with my animals.

I too would like to meet other zoos in real life and have done so a few times in the past.

but to find an exclusive zoo to live with that is willing to take second place to my animals and just help me spoil them rotten... (and not pressure me into having human sex)... well, that might be just a bit easier if I was a bit harder on the eyes.

I don't know if the grass is just always greener on the other side or what but it seems we can't just simply be dealt what we want... that is just too easy. :wacko:

This post has been edited by teck9 on Feb 7 2008, 04:52 AM

Ahh teck ....... interesting comment .... ^_^

Women generally do not like / trust (loosely speaking) good looking men .... personally I have largely found them to be arrogant and their treatment of women leaves a lot to be desired ..... I have always thought this is because they know they can pick up another woman just like that primarily. For the record I have been asked out by some drop dead gorgeous men in my life time ..... most of which I have refused.

If this generalisation does not apply to you ...... :huh: ..... then apologies in advance.

If you get invited to dinners / parties etc and just want to stay home .... stay home .... what's the problem ?

I'm sorry if this sounds rude but I can quite see why no female who was interested in animals would want to be with you. Quite frankly your attitude stinks! I'm sorry if you're offended by that but it is how I feel. First of all ...... my dog for example is a very important part of my life but when it comes to a male human partner .. he is ancillary to it. NEVER would I expect a human partner to be second to my dog. How insulting is that ? On top of that you want them to help spoil your animals and not pressure you into human sex? :huh: If you can't see the flaw in that plan I'm not going to explain it to you.

I respectfully suggest it's not your looks that are the problem ..... it's your whole attitude.

*whimper*
I can't change how I feel. I'm sorry you are angry. I was just pointing out that being viewed as attractive by humans kinda sucks when you consider human intimacy repulsive.

I won't apologize for having different priorities though. Maybe someday I will find someone who can identify with mine.

Thanks for sharing.

Hmmm... are you really sure about that? :-) I see where you're coming from, but to say that women generally don't like good-looking men is a rather bold statement.

I mean, one could easily make the opposite case, that less attractive women are bound to be less likely to cheat on you or something. But I don't think I would go so far to say that either men or women don't like attractive people :)

Just my 0.02..

Well that's a slightly different angle from your previous post where you were looking for someone to take second place to your animals, not pressurising you for human sex etc. isn't it ?

Nobody here would expect you to aplogise for being zoo exclusive .... several are and noone has an issue with that.

I hope you find what you're looking for .... whatever that is .....

Good luck :)

Hi ^_^

Always nice to see people come in from the shadows and participate.

If you are going to quote me in future do please do so accurately and not put your own spin on what I said.

I qualified my statement by saying "loosely speaking" and I personally have found this to be true.

I did not say either men or women don't like attractive people.

I also did not mention cheating ..... nor was that even on my mind at the time so I'm not quite sure where you got that from but that is your mis-interpretation of what I said and not MY words.

Now that we've got that cleared up looking forward to reading more of your posts!

^_^

I've met a few people from BF and one from another zoo related site.

I usually get to know them well through IM first and if things go right they give me their address and show up at their house.

I've only had good experiences even thought I was really nervous the first couple times but they have all turned out to be great people and since become good friends.

I can understand Tek. Something I hit on years ago while going to various group social things of all sorts.

Pretty girls have gargoyles (re: defensive males who are never more than three paces away and step up with that hard stare whenever another male so much as wanders by), while 'average' girls might, and 'not so attractive' (by sterotypical standards) girls don't (seem) to very often.

It's those latter two types that tend to be better between the ears than the first class who seem to use their good looks as a shield and let their brain just go, relying on looks like a panacea.

I'm not knocking good looking girls, my jaw hangs quite loosely when a knockout wanders by never looking even the once in my direction. In a social environment if I don't see their attendant gargoyle following along in ten seconds or so I begin to wonder why not...

Unfortunately, in my experience, a hottie without a gargoyle is either not into males, or is an utter nut-job (this latter type having a penchant for seeking me out).

Finding a nice looking, or a by-the-gods knockout, who prefers her fur to anything I could offer would be a dream come true for me. :)