No problem. We need to keep an eye out for each other, on here and in the real world. It's what community is all about.

You'd be surprised what sort of information one can find on the internet. Once, during a dispute with my phone company (Citizens Communications), I looked up the name, phone number, and address for the company's CEO. People returned my calls after I got her involved. ;-)

For everyone who is the slightest paranoid: I recommend googling yourself and seeing what pops up. I don't know how they get some of the things they have, nor do I know how to remove it, but at the least you will get an idea on what is available.

Don't they call that ego surfing? Yeah, that can be spooky sometimes.

I totally agree that there are a few bad seeds out there, ive had my share of people asking for my personal #'s and etc. but when it comes to that I totally close off the PM.

that way they get the picture,. Though I have Talked a few friends like Cetacean and Bradatl, and a bunch of others. I regularly keep in touch with people and those that i feel uncomfortable with I tend to shy away from. Well im gonna go now

most of you get my point, so best to be polite and friendly, then asking and saying the wrong thing!

i was using the chat feature a week ago and i get invited to a private chat with some guy and he goins ASL??? then i say im a guy and they go oh me too and leaves. its kinda funny actually. :rolleyes:

people are soooo desperate for sex. I can't say I understand it. I'm as randy as anyone but when i was single if i wanted some action i went out and found some. If they spent half as much time in the real world sniffing out a target as they did online, i think they would be much more successful. At least then they could know if it were a man or a woman from first sight!!

That's the thing, I think. These people wouldn't get any in the real world. For whatever reason, they are so socially inept, their last, best chance is on the internet. I think they then follow the thinking that "oh, she'll have sex with a dog, I've got a great chance!"

That's a really mean view of people, but my gut says it is pretty much true.

Same here, several times. Once or twice they've stuck around and we had a decent chat anyway.

Live and let live to some degree is what i say. Plenty of members here have no problem watching their wives at another members house with their dog and perhaps even share with the owner
I'm in agreement on the guys though. I love the rush of this, however I have zero interest in having sex with a man or indeed when married, watching some guy join my wife.
As for the member with a 3 year old, lock the damn monster up and throw away the key.

no matter what forum you may be on...or chat room you are in... there are going to be stalkers and gawkers.....a good checklist on what is acceptable and what keeps you feeling safe is a good idea...I have certain criteria before I will meet someone.....talking on the :heart: phone.....for hours is one of them

;) All very good advice, and Curios Bi touched on another. It's healthy to be somewhat paranoid, because every site is frequented by sickos. I get sick when I see some of the My Space type ads from young people revealing too much info.

So, especially some of your straiter sites, your own business, ebay etc. should be just as discreet unless unwanted attention can be dealt with via PM or something.

For the most part I've met good people on here, and some other sites. But I have had several encounters with bad apples.

Some are just not discreet enough, or too pushy and demanding. A lot of the guys I talked to are real boors, and a few of the women are just teases or not women at all. (talk about desperation).

What really bothers me. is the association with criminal elements. Even on some of the more tame boards. The attitude that if your involved in this, anything goes and you will be non-judgmental and accepting of anything they suggest or offer.
It doesn't pay to confront them either, just silently dissapear. I think the game with some is getting caught & then they become confrontational, and possibly obsessed and stalking.

In reality, I've pretty well packed it in so far as a personal relationship with another zoo is concerned. I'm pretty well convinced this forum is as close as I'll get ! One also has to realize that mutual desire for zoo encounters isn't all that's required for compatability! Finding someone who's a zoo and who is also compatible in other areas seems to me on the same order as filling an inside straight- or climbing two mountains simultaneously! One can always hope, though lol!

The way I handle it is I never form any relationships from or based on this lifestyle. Not saying it's the right way, but it's how I get by. With that said, I form relationships like anyone else would, and based on how those relationships go, the idea is hopefully the one that's "right for me" will hopefully be into it too. Here's to hopin'.

I am inclined to agree with the members who say that the problem is not with zoo at all but rather with people. My $0.02 is that it is with people who do not respect themselves and so cannot show respect for others, they are all over the world, in every walk of life. I started my life with bad experiences but I am determined to live it anyway. Just be careful, treat yourself and others with respect and courtesy and if someone makes you uncomfortable, I call it making my tummy squirm, end the communication right then and there. You will probably feel like a total jerk for being judgmental, I know I do, but you know what? What gives them the right to treat you that way? You do. You empower it by allowing it. Show the respect for yourself to say no and end it and then give yourself a pat on the back for taking good care of you. ;)

Privacy. Security.

Now there's a few major reasons why I've been a "lurker" for so many years. I've been very active reader/downloader of beast forum, [SPAM], petforum and few other forums but never posted almost anything. I would like to be an active poster of the community, but my fears about zoo side of me ever going public is just too scary and humiliating thought. If someone would google my real name, he/she would find lots of information about me.. and this is too much information already.

And also, being marked as the most dangerous people in the net - single and male (atm) - doesn't really help with finding company. It's almost impossible to get anyone to talk to with you about zoo, especially women. I've tried to approach via email but i've never gotten any answer, no matter how polite and friendly I've been. I'm really not interested talking about zoo with other men..

But, I'll keep lurking, maybe sometimes write something up, like now. I'll be waiting for ages to get the 25 posts done for downloading rights.. Not a big deal, I understand the reasons behind it. But it's a shame though that 'lurkers' have so bad reputation with active community. Just try to remember that most of them are - in fact - spreading the word in their own way..

Thank you for the great forum btw. You are wicked ppl. ;)

Ah yes, I get lots of people, even in the BF chat, trying to date me. It annoys the crap out of me <_<