You have a valid point but can't you just iggy them?
I would only pm a girl if I have a valid question to ask or if I knew them well enough to pm but yes I understand where you are comming from, and maybe moderators on here can weed out people who are just lurking to get thier jollies off.

And may I ask why you have been lurking here for the past 2 years and only made 2 post 1 of which is this one.

Should us moderators weed you out?

:lol: nice, deerhunter! :rock:

Personally I think they shouldn't be able to send PMs until they have 100 posts. <_<
That may not weed them out, but that would keep them from harassing the ladies here.

edit: "they" as in all new members.

This post has been edited by missywolf on Sep 25 2008, 11:03 PM

ill add my 2 cents worth
i enjoy all facets of this site, but also would like to chat to females so i do pm girls, most turnout to be guys , lol
but a couple of girls i have chatted to for a while now are genuine and only by pming have i made these new girl friends, we swop clip links and pics and talk about what ever.

so perhaps theres a lock that the mods can do for girls who dont want pms except from friends .
also as a suggestion if a guy or girl is willing to accept a pm to make new friends can there not be a symbol that can be added like an avatar that says willing to chat to make friends when you register,
or add a section a bit like other dating sites rather than what exists at the moment on here which one person puts up a thread loads of people answer it , nobody meets up
that way when you register you can go on that section or not if you want to find a mate.

We are not a "dating" site, we are a community

A lot of females here wish not to be shown as female because of the contstant pms asking for photos or jerk-off material, if you take the time to read their profiles you will see that most just want to get to be a part of the community, those who want to "chat" or "date" will let you know after they get to know you on the boards

If you take the time to look at the profile of the poster above you, you will see what I mean. missywolf pretty much expresses the opinion of many of the ladies here, all on her profile page ;)

thank you pick. :kiss:

Agreed & yes she does! B) :cool2: :D

That is a very good idea! :D B)
I think no PMs until 100 posts(or some such # as determined by Mods) is long overdue & weeding out the lurkers would be great!(they just creep me out).

We are not a "dating" site, we are a community
there is a part on this site tho to find
`the one and only' .

but agree with you on this one if i read a profile and it says not interested in chat etc
then i wouldnt pm them. and wouldnt be rude in any pm sent.

This post has been edited by stanleyknife on Oct 21 2008, 10:53 PM

Quoted for epic truth. My profile states exactly what I DO NOT want.

will i dont realy know who well the main question was aswered but putting male or female in your signature would help

i see why some would lie about they gender. i do not think it would be a good idea to have gender open on main page (less it be in signature mentioned by i think pick7)

i had no idea you ladies were getting so many "spam' stuff pm'ed to you -_-

:offtopic:

...wow there are a lot of things to learn in this thread. im male but i dont pester females or anyone here about mindless pming or asking for "gerk-off material".

:offtopic:

as far as not allowing pm until 100 posts have been make im strongly against that because their (the newbies) the ones who need to use the pms for things like posting in the test area and asking a mod to ok it. or maybe asking a question about a differnat site and thanking the mods/staff and all else for letting this site exist I also think that if you are lurking you shouldnt be ban for it, however removeing d/l ablity was a divine way to solve the problem. also i think i woulb be a good idea to have "lurkers"/newbies should only be able to pm supper mods, mods, staff, and vips if they have less than say 50 posts

..........nicklepony :clover:

Agree with you, Nickle, with one tiny except: Some of the the VIP ladies were the ones who said they can't even get PM's because their boxes are so filled with lovely "suggestions" on a daily basis. I'm a guy, don't get that crap, but the ladies should be able to not get that if they don't want, by whatever means. As for Noobs being able to PM the staff, :lol: I say go for it. Don't know, but I doubt they get many rude propositions (at least not more than once......... )

yep. VIP ladies are the ones getting this from these guys. Myself and another lady here had an issue. One guy was pestering both of us and we contacted a staff member and had it taken care of right quick. The mods here are wonderful. I try to have patience with people, and most of the time I ignore, but I was really feeling insulted. So guys, if you are reading this, please think before you send that unsolicited PM to any of us.

I'm a guy. Not much of one, but one nonetheless.

Separately, my intentions of being here extend no farther than satiating my visceral zoophilic desires through the permitted venues and the formation of casual relationships with those of this community. I'm not above making friends but my life hardly centers around going down on my dog, and it's my personal view that any viable relationship, regardless of its estimable duration or significance, should be rooted in something far greater than sexual interest. I find it wholly despicable when the female constituents of this board are harassed to appease the simplistic needs of another, especially a male, as it does little but darken the black label some have already put in place for us. I greatly prefer not to be talked to through a barrier of conditioned partiality. Naturally this rule is general and not biased towards the women; its frequency, however, warrants additional emphasis on that part. It is detestable for anyone to be exploited for another's personal gain, even more so when that gain is to stunningly basic.

(End rant.)

This post has been edited by secret_admirer on Nov 4 2008, 05:39 AM

A lot of the profiles are a fake. look at country, gender and the postings etc. I am a honest male :devil2: