Alas, My husband found out my fondness for K-9s, and though i have not had the chance of doing anything more then oral, I was told that if I ever did anything with a dog that he would never ever touch me again..... What is a woman to do?

Get a dog and put the husband on a line in the backyard!

I don't like your husband :angry: and I don't have any practical advice other then make friends with other who are into it and have a dog close so you can indulge without hubby being any the wiser... Oh and reject something that he likes just on principal :evil:

Next time your husband goes to touch you, pull away and say "I do not believe my k9 lover would approve" ;)

ok first of all he needs to calm down on the ordering around thing.

second ,try sitting down and explaining to him your fetesh with dogs, and how it might even bring in a more sexual drive in the bedroom. for him and you.

let him know how it makes you feel inside and how you are happy to do things like this , and how many many women wouldnt even try something like this.

also tell him its not like your cheating on him with another man.


and if all this doesnt work





















dont give him anything sexual til he gives in. :pinch: :pinch:




good luck

I think you need to ask yourself a few questions first..

do you love your husband? If he were to leave because of your "fondness" would you die a little inside? Do you have children that would suffer cuz of you making a decision like this?

If you and your husband love each other and have no issues other then this.. to me it is a given ... stop playing with doggies... If he was doing something you found was "gross" or unappealing wouldnt you give him this same ultimatium??

I am sorry I cannot agree with any of the other posts.. unless there is something more serious going on.... are you willing to break up your home for something as silly as this??? Your husband might feel this as cheating... you are getting sexual satisfaction from someone other than him... so using the excuse.. at least it isnt another man isnt valid...

there is also the thought of limits... we all have our limits.. some might sound silly to us.. but who are we to judge what someone find "gross" or unappealing .... and how dare anyone tell me I am wrong for MY limits they are MINE...

I think you need to take a step back and review your relationship with your husband and ask yourself if being with a doggie sexually would be worth losing your man for...

You stated it perfectly, Wyldfyre67. I think it would be a great idea to have your comments printed onto cards and hand them out to each and every couple having difficulties, no matter what the cause.

This post has been edited by Wombat_intl on Apr 20 2007, 11:29 PM

thank you hun... :wub: :blush:

I have to agree with Wyldfyre on this one. She really did state everything with a very cool and clear head.

You have to understand when it comes to this way of life, that not everyone is going to agree with you. I've always known that I have to respect each person's right to disagree with my thoughts and opinions on my Zoo life. I think your at the crossroads with your predicament and I wish you all the best with whatever path you decide to take.

I don't like ultimatums. I don't give them and I don't take them well. So, regardless of the subject I would have to take a close look at a man who issued one to me. But, you are in a relationship and you do need to look at what is important to you. Is this an issue you really want to go to the mat over? It's obviously something he feels strongly about and every relationship requires some compromise if it's going to be a happy one. Good luck.

Wild
Panth

Good thoughts both..

We have several threds already on marage troubles
And we all know this lifestyle comes with a price we must each pay..


Living with anywone is a compromise and we all must give and take. Living is not cheep and 2 sharing the house helps..

We all know few aprove of this lifestyle, those who have excepting partners are few and blest.

I regret your situation but we are talking about an ocasional trist which only you can judge inportant enough to split your family but he considers it that inportant..

If you have a dog he is in jepordy and if you make more waves the dog is in worse shape..
My guess is he is not an animal person and is jealous. Maby religious..
You have a serious personal issue only you can defuse..

I wish you well

Rus

I'm in complete agreement with Wyld. Often, we hear about (this is only an example) a husband who really wants his wife to get involved with this, but the idea of it turns her off and she refuses. What do we advise that husband to do? We advise him to respect her feelings on the issue and not to force it.

Why would this be any different? If you love your husband, there should be no question about what's the right thing to do. He's been honest about his feelings, and now you need to decide just how important this is to you.

You talk about your "fondness" for dogs, and the fact that you've only experimented a little bit. There's no history here of "a way of life" in your case. You aren't giving anything up.

If he feels that strongly about it, I'd think very seriously about whether or not it's worth throwing away your marriage. If you decide it's worth losing your husband so you can have a romp with the dog, I'd wonder why the marriage existed in the first place.

Ultimatums, like it or not, are a part of life. Some ultimatums are inferred or just general knowledge, or written in some obscure handbook, like if you get caught sleeping at your desk at work, you'll be fired. The only difference here is that he verbalized his feelings. Kudo's to hubby for his honesty, even though it wasn't what you wanted to hear.

First of all let me say that I do not believe everything I read . So assuming your post is true, I would say you have a dilema. If you give in to your husband you will feel first like, what u want or have a desire for, is wrong and feel guiilty. Also you will try to push out thoughts out of your mind of what you did or what you like and you will feel very strained sexually. I also think there is a differance in the flip side,, say if a husband wanted to have his wife do something with a K-9 , he
is asking her to do something they she may find unpleasant or a turn-off. Here in this case she is not asking him to "DO" anything rather she is asking him to accept something SHE wants to do as a turn on to HER. So I hope I have confused the issue :P really I wish the best, but that is the way I see it!

This post has been edited by Joe horney on Apr 21 2007, 03:31 AM

for the record, I was completely joking in my initial reply because I didn't really know what to say...I guess I shouldn't have said anything.

I agree very much with Wyld.

One must be carefull who you respond.
What is a passing problem for one can be very serious for a nother.


Rus