Having just posted in related topic about telling others of our lifestyle, it started me thinking how we deal with not telling and keeping the secret.

Having searched through the various threads( forgive me if I've duplicated) I can't see one that deals with this specifically

Much has been mentioned on the forum about other peoples reactions when they find out about our zoo tendancies or how you tell them but I was wondering how others feel having to keep it a secret and how they deal with it.

Whilst I am comfortable with my zoo tendancies as I'am sure most of us are, a recent situation with my g/f (who is so not into zoo) has made me feel guilty for having to hide it and defensive because she does'nt share my view of it.
This is never happened quite like this before and I guess stems from her total distain and rejection of anything to do with sex with animals.

So the question is do you hide/deny and how do you deal with it, and is it harder in a relationship?

Well I have been around a long time and maried.
Many people lead dubble lives to conceal things they do for many reasons.
If you expose your self to people you have a very real security issue.

This is considered a sex crime now for what ever reason and you will if charged find that life changing beyound your wildest dreems.

My advise is find a girl friend who is comfortable with animals, a trainer breeder something like that..

My gut feeling is you are going to have major issues with this relationship.
To becomfortable the people involved must be at least comfortable with the existence of other lifestyles.

She has told you what she thinks and from what you say finds it morally wrong.
She has left you with a choice and has in her way made a choice. a person in love with a man posted here to find out about who we were as a groop and what she might expect because she loved the man but was not interested in being active at all. That would be a far better reaction.

I do horses not people though
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The g/f situation whilst it throws up issues is just another X on the list sadly which will reach a natural conclusion before long.

Just interested in other peoples views and how they handle it. As I say its never been a problem before mainly because previous g/fs have either shared the interest or if not, have'nt made such a big deal over it. Over the years I've become adept at telling who is and is'nt into zoo, if I don't get the desired responce, I don't persue it.

As usual you illustrate what a wise sage you are, so pleased you stayed with us.

If I ever find a human who is *the one* for me, which I doubt I will, I would tell them. If they don't take it well, then you know what, I'm not going to waste my time with them.

It's doubtful that you'll find someone coincidentaly that shares our feelings, but there are people, I know a few, who just are like "I don't really go for animals, but hey, that's your choice, and I think it's a perfectly alright choice, I have no qualms with it. It may be abit disgusting to me but I see no reason why it should come between us."

Those are the people who should be your friends.

My opinion, find someone here on BF. If you don't let yourself find someone who may not approve of zoos, and instead find someone who you know from the staret at least accepts zoos, that would be best.

IMO.

I don't really hide it, I just don't talk about it, except to my very close friends. If someone walked up to me and asked if I was zoo, I'd say "What's that?" though. Pretty much just because there's laws against it and the public opinion of it is so negative, though. If I was homo/bi, I wouldn't shout it to the world, but if someone asked me, I'd tell the truth. Even though that's not fully accepted yet, most people with at least some intelligence can see that's there'snothing "wrong" with it. It takes a very accepting/close person to accept zoos though... :unsure:

This post has been edited by Prince_Xizor on Apr 1 2007, 06:55 PM

It is not very often that one can find another soul who is truly into our life style. In my life time I have found it safer and easier to keep one thoughts and activities to one self. If you find another member of our life style then good luck to the both of you. Mind you I have only found a small number of true friends who were into animal sex.

As a younger man living in a rural setting, I met and participated with several others having sex with animals. In all cases, that I am aware of, they all returned to, or turned to human sex. I have straddled the line and continue hiding my zoo feelings from all of my family and friends.

ditto, I hide it, as I also hide my impulses towards the same sex... I consider it the same thing, although I don´t go to other forums.

I generally consider myself zoo exclusive, and I don't foresee myself being in a human relationship, so it's difficult to say whether I would admit my feelings in that situation. If I was in a relationship with another human, I wouldn't necessarily wish them to be a zoo as well, but rather just to be understanding.

When it comes to general friends and family, I subconsciously try my hardest to avoid giving any sign of my interest in dogs, which leads to some weird paranoid behavior. For example, if there's a dog in the room, I'm generally reluctant to pet it or even acknowledge it's presence if it comes up to me. I often avoid looking at it, with the exception of quick passing glances.

Even though I recognize that I'm being overly paranoid, I can't stop myself from acting that way in social situations. There are many times where I want to admit my feelings, but I am highly reluctant to do so in fear of the social repercussions.

This post has been edited by ZetterGRD on Apr 1 2007, 11:03 PM

Luckily I didn't have to hide my zoo activities since my hubby new all about it. My hubby is the closest person to me, so he's the only one I'd have to hide my feeling from anyway.

I hide it from EVERYONE! Everyone but two people, which I have became very close with and felt I could tell them about it, they're as kinky as I am and just seemed like they would be fine with it.

Come to find out, one of them thought about it a few times and when I told her about it, she was like, "I've thought about trying, but just never have." I built her up and she had some fun with her female dogs, then about 2 months ago her friend gave his male lab to her, they play now :)

But until I find another person like them, I'm not telling anyone. But I do drop hints with other, they're just not getting it. Oh well.

It's hidden from everyone but my Friends here, close forum Friends get more real life visuals. :D :rolleyes:

:unsure: I wonder if anyone seen me taking doggy butt pics in the dog park yesterday?

:lol: :devil2:

Have a policy of deny, deny, deny. In RT anyway, totally diff with people i meet via the Forum, of course.

In RT..its just too much of a risk and really..nobody needs to know something so intimate and personal unless they mean something to you.
Only one ex lover knows about it.
But otherwise..if the topic is ever raised..like in beer fuelled conversations etc amongst friends, I wrinkle my nose in distaste and snigger like everyone else. Hypocritical? Absolutely. I cant afford to have this particular secret unleashed on my local society. Yeah that sucks but ya gotta do what ya gotta do.

^_^

Pretty much have to, :( there's just no way I really know if I can trust anybody. There are maybe one or two people I'd maybe consider telling someday, but there's just too much to learn if that somebody decides to ruin your life. I just sort of "blend in with the crowd" if zoophilia comes up in conversation with friends or family, and vent on these forums for the most part, where people are that truly understand. :blush:

:o I've been a zoo all my life I try not to show it and keep it to myself..I have 2 lovly ladies who do accept me for who I am,and one that went screaming the other way after she found out. all well to each their own..as long as my two ladies can respect me I'm happy..take care all and be safe..horny in so cal.. :evil: :diablo:

I don't interact with all that many people, fewer still whom are important to me. Those that are important know all about me and my orientation, those that aren't important don't know a thing about it. Sometimes I'd prefer it if everyone I knew could understand me being a zoophile, if nothing more than so that I don't get hit with some generic "Check out those buns!" kinda conversation. Pretending to be attracted to humans is the most bothersome thing about it, but not disturbing enough for me to break the silence. There has been many a time when temptation would have me blurt out everything, but doing so would very likely cause nothing more than unrest amongst those that I would tell.

The farthest I go is wearing a Zeta pin on a bandana around my neck at all times. I suppose it's there as a sign to others in the know. Some think I'm too ballsy for wearing it, but should someone anti-zoo recognize it (hasn't happened yet) I can always shrug it off as some stylish thing without a known meaning.