Relationship..., How do you not tell someone?

See, i have been active for just over four years and sort of think of myself in a relationship with my K9. No one really knows about it, so my friends seeing i dont date always try and push me to go out and meet others... But i have no interest in such a thing... Anyone else have that problem?

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Yes i have that problem, but its not that bad since i dont have any friends, but i dont want to worrie my dad (about not being interested in human girls), i have occasionly made up i have a girlfriend but my dad always asking me to bring my girlfriends home, which gets me in a bit of a pickle, my advice is to tell your friends that your not really interested in going out with another person.

I have told them more then once! I know its just them caring for me... And not understanding... Just hard at times... You know when you want to be honest and open... But you just cant....

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I've had the same problem.. girls been asking me things like, "so when are we going to go out somewhere?" and stuff like that. I just flat out told a few of them that I don't want to date. I don't think I could ever directly say that I'm g a y and zoo though, that might just have to come with time. What you might want to do is just sit down with a friend in a very quiet, personal conversation, and tell them you don't want a date.

Honestly, it sounds bold and stupid, but getting right to the point, and making as big of an impact as you can can really help get them off your back. Hopefully this helps! ^_^
Good luck with your lover!

DARK

This post has been edited by |) /-\ (R) K BEAST on Sep 9 2007, 07:44 AM

Thanks so much for your message. I get what your saying... That big heart to heart... Its just, when you tell someone you dont want to date they get curious as to why. I guess its my own problem... It sucks... But, thats life and just a small part of the lifestyle

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I'm living the same life girl, just a little different when you're a guy, but not by much. Hope you have good luck in talking things over with friends. None of mine understand, and you;re right.. they just want to know more. But I can't tell them.. that would be too much for them to handle right now. Well anyways, glad to see I've helped/ Peace

DARK

Well it's the same here. it starts to stick out that I am not interested in dating or a girlfriend at all. Sure, no one knows whats really up, but the topic usually pops up on family meetings or birthday parties when some people start this "why don't you get a girlfriend, do you want to be alone forever, you don't have to marry, etc.". Often, I find this annoying and it burns on my tongue to say something like "I don't speak enough russian to date a siberian girl"^^..but I guess no one would understand.

I get this from my parents all the time. "When will you get a girlfriend?" "When are you gonna get married and give us grandkids?" And other such things. The worst part about all this is that I am their only son. And I have no interest in human females. Or even human males. I keep telling them I have a girlfriend, meaning my husky, and they keep saying "A real girlfriend" or something like that. She is a real girlfriend. I wish I could make them understand that this is how I am, and this is how it is.

I'm married, so I don't get that "date somebody" anymore, but my opinion is: Asking is ok, as long as it is welcome. You cannot talk somebody into dating, getting married, or having kids. It's a personal decision, and nobody except for yourself (and your partner) have something to say about it.

Asking time and time again is rude and very impolite. I've had that in some other respect and told my parents they shouldn't continously ask me because it was annoying, impolite and not helpful in any way. It wasn't fun, but it worked.

Prank

As a SWF of 23, I know what you mean... I tell my good friends that I am looking for Mister Right, not Mister Right Now... others usually don't bother me... OR you could tell them that you are a converted lesbian... then they'll have to change their game plan... :)

This post has been edited by dixiedoll on Sep 9 2007, 12:17 PM

fortunately most of my friends know im zoo, so i dont get those questions very often. on the pluss side i really havent had much objection to those ive told, though most of them are furries ( i dont know if that makes much difference or not) and even some have also confessed the same interest. what does suck and i seem to have more of a problem with is strangers that flirt and try to hook up with me. I tend to be discriminantly open about being zoo but its hard to let people know that dont seem to be the type of person that wouldnt take it well or someone i just met. seems kindof unfair to date someone for a while and then be like "btw if this is going to last, then you need to be ok with me being zoo". so ussually i just pretend im not interested in the first place and then they generally fade away without too many questions asked. i have told a few people in a not so sober state of mind that i really wasnt interested in and wouldnt leave me alone, that i was zoo. they didnt really freak out but it seemed they were pretty ignorant to understanding what i was trying to explain to them. they keep thinking im saying something other than what i give them at face value.

I don't really have that problem with my immediate family and friends. They tend to respect my privacy and just not ask about boyfriends etc but then I've always kept my private life away from them as such anyway and never discussed it with them :blink:

Extended family often keep asking / nagging / making comments about why I'm still single etc but fortunately my family takes the same view that I do ..... that it's rude, impolite and noone else's business.

If I did meet a man I liked and started dating regularly that would be a more tricky issue to deal with but I'll cross that bridge if and when I come to it! :blush:

Something similar happened to me with my first k9 partner. I hadn't yet met my future husband and was just dating and enjoying being single and dating. Yet because I was having sex with my Lab, I simply wasn't as obsessed with guys as my girlfriends were. So getting sexual satisfaction elsewhere helped me be a bit more discerning and/or picky when it came to the men I met. :lol:

Not to sound like an Anti-zoo bound relationship but...
Human to Human relations are healthy, not just for the mind, but for the body.
There isn't anything wrong about loving your K9 more then just a close friend or lover, but there are some things that you can't get from that relationship as you could with a human lover, rather it be female or male, you just don't get the same out of it as you would with a human. I do enjoy being with an animal more then with a human sexualy, but I'd much rather have an intelligent conversation with my Girlfriend of Boyfriend rather then not speak at all with my lover.

I hope that makes sense and doesn't make anyone hate me >.>

*hugs Saith* of course not !

And you're perfectly right in what you said. The original question I believe was specifically about family and friends wanting to know / nagging you about boyfriends / girlfriends etc and how / whether you keep your zoo interests to yourself.

A different issue :)