Why Do You Try?, ...to still date non-zoos?

Okay, I've seen several basically "oh crap, I got caught with the pup" threads or people biting their nails on revealing their zoo lifestyle to their partners. My question is, if you know you could never do without the sexual relationship with animals and are still actively apart of that lifestyle, why do you enter into relationships where the person has know idea about this or you have no idea if they would support you?

Was it before this site where you could directly seek people out? Do you not want to limit yourself? Did you find out "hey, I'm a zoo afterall" after being with your significant other for some time already/ you were already in love with them?

Oh, and why don't some of you even try once a relationship with a human that can share your passion and love for your lifestyle?

The real question.. is why would you want to be with someone who doesn't accept who you are? I personally won't date someone who isn't into zoo, or at least accepts it. I've talked to too many people who are married and unhappy with their husband/wife not accepting their lifestyle.

People always pay a price for this life style.
For me outside of the forum people and I jenerally agree to leave each other alown..
I am what people in the majority call unpopular.. I learned as a child the best way to deal with people was to avoid them..
Later after 20 plus years of hell I changed my stratigy.
I tell people to leave me alown and when they do not I make an example of the person and I assure you people in a groop do not mess with me again..

That said
There are 2 dear friends I have and some how a wife and Smith & wesson. Thats 5. In the outside world
My axceptance here has been more appreciated then most know..

Anmals do not judge you or tease you and they are very good listeners..

People seak what they consider week people for sport to make themselves bigger by making the other person the but of there jokes and strikes. I have never had an animal do that to me..
And no human in the last 20 so years has gotten away with it eather..
Funny humans learn by example though.

So the people who are my friends know and except my lifestyle as I except others in theres..

Rus

The reason why I do is the fact that animals can not give me the same level of emotional response or attachment that I require. I love my animals love them very much. But I need relationships with humans as well...

I am currently dating a zoo in any case. She knows all about my zoo side as well..

I don't. I don't date non-zoos or zoos. I made attempts at possible relationships with humans, but they have just turned to crap. It also didn't help that the strong feelings needed to make a relationship work weren't really there to begin with.

I get the emotional attachment I need from my girls. And sometime within the next few months I will probably get the physical closeness I desire. I have no need for deep relationships with humans. I have a few human friends, but that's all other humans serve for me. Just friendship is all I require from other humans. Nothing emotional or physical. Because I don't always want to go places alone. And since I am incapable of bringing one of my canine lovers into any establishment such as a movie theater, I go with a human friend.

I have been betrayed, lied to, picked on, and mentally tortured by over 2000 humans in my 26 years on this planet. And the number will just increase as the years go on. Anything more than friendship is unneeded for me when it comes to humans. And out of the 3 people I consider real friends, 1 is a zoo, another completely hates this lifestyle, and the third doesn't really care one way or the other. Only 2 of them know I am a zoo, and the one that hates it doesn't know, and if I can help it, never will know.

I get along with most people, I'm friendly and like people. But I sure in saint hady won't date or have a serious relationship with a non-zoo, that is playing with fire. I have many friends and I live with two other zoos, so I am not lonely by any means. But I am not going to shun a relationship with another zoo or zoo friendly if that should ever arise, and if it doesnt I won't cry any. I am happy with my lifestyle right now and not going out of my way to try and change it.

I haven't tried in awhile...due to some other circumstances, and my overall happiness with my dog. I certainly wouldn't mind finding a woman who I'd be able to share my love and care for animals, but to be honest my future doesn't look all that good, and I wouldn't want to put someone through what it probably has in store for me.

I have a girlfriend who knows I'm a zoo, but she thinks of it as a bad habit, rather than what normal people would think.

This is an interesting question. Never having been in a relationship myself, I can't offer a concrete opinion on the subject. However, I will add some thoughts.

It's no secret that zoos are rare in society, and speaking purely in terms of numbers, that limits our choice of human companions by a considerable amount. So even if people meet other zoo or zoo friendly people, other relationship factors for general compatibility would still have to be considered for any long term relationship. Being zoo simply may not be enough in common.

If someone can't share a relationship with another zoo, a normal human will suffice for basic needs. Aside from the range of human sexual relations, people like someone close to confide in, someone to talk to, eat dinner with every night, share living expenses and earnings, things like that. If the choice of partner is either zoo or nobody, there is a large potential to miss out on otherwise normal human fulfillment if it is so desired.

As for starting a relationship with another zoo, I will admit to thinking about it on occasion. However, it ranks low on the list of the few things I desire in life. I suppose I'm open to it happening in the future, but I won't place any faith in it, and I don't see myself putting any effort into such a relationship anytime soon.

Personally, if it comes down to a choice between the woman I love and the zoo lifestyle (as I have a feeling it will since the lady I'm interested in would have no part of it) I will choose the woman. This lifestyle just isn't worth it to me.

crazy

In reality, the question comes back on itself if you think about it. Non-zoo's ask us why were attracted to animals, and no matter what reasons we can concieve, in the end it comes down to the base word "attraction". You cant wholly explain why your attracted to something deep down, its just there. Now when i met the lady that was to become my wife i never even thought about whether or not she was zoo, non zoo, zoo friendly, etc. There was simply something about her that i was drawn to.
Needless to say i didnt sit down to dinner with her and her family and say "Pass the gravy please, oh and by the way, i screw mares on the side". I'd kept things to myself for 10 years, so what was a little longer?
Eventually it came out, but it hasnt changed a thing. Is she into it herself? Nope, however true love is accepting everything about someone, you dont get to pick and choose, thus she now views it as "better than looking to hook up with some loose woman" and often there are times when she's worked a full day and is too tired to keep up. The "baby im going to bed, if you want some, best go to the barn" line means i dont pester her when she's too tired :)

Love has a will of its own, and once it has you your stuck till it lets you go.

G.S.

akari really hit it on the head here with the line about being with someone who doesnt accept you for who you are.


And then when I think about it..... you cant pick and choose who you fall in love with, can you? Or even try and limit your feelings? Love is a tricky emotion to deal with under any circumstances and it never follows guidelines..no matter how hard you try to control them. Anyways, its more fun to let your feelings go and soar with them.....as opposed to trying to restrict them within 'socially acceptable' limits and taboos....

^_^ this is all IMO anyway...interesting thread.

I just had to bump this because once again I was so confused on how someone was again frustrated on having to hide part of themselves from their partner, and I just remembered this thread and had to re-read this in its entirety. I was once again perplexed that someone would put themselves through all the drama with a person that is only their girlfriend and not their wife. I'm sure no one wants to limit themselves, but now you're going to be limiting yourself in how open you can be with your partner, satisfying your sexual needs, and being stressed and anxious for no reason at all. I guess I would expect someone to just be quietly at peace with having their secret and realize it's their choice or break up.

Course I could, I never would limit a relationship on personal beliefes and likes unless they deftly stabbed into my own.. Personally I like a womans company more than an animals, there's just some things a woman can do that an animal couldn't hehe.