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Posted by: jamiet Oct 30 2007, 01:42 AM

Those aren't the right words at all
and i'm quite sure this must be a widely talked about subject
but i couldnt help but to wonder how many people have actually told their friends, families or partners about their zoo ways.
Personally I still don't think i would never be able to bring myself to tell any one at all unless i was definite they could relate to me.
So who has told any one apart from a partner with the same interests? or is it something best kept to your self? Saying that why are things you don't want to be ashamed of hard to say, even when you have the utmost confidence that you are completely correct to follow your feelings?

damn the human brain and its idiotic categorizing of right and wrong!

majority rules?
bah

Posted by: kitsunekun Oct 30 2007, 02:57 AM

QUOTE (jamiet @ Oct 29 2007, 08:42 PM)

damn the human brain and its idiotic categorizing of right and wrong!

majority rules?
bah

the way I see it we're a product of de-evolution, being able to think as much as we do is not a good thing...

oh yeah, topic...

I'm too afraid to tell people upright but I have places online that mentions it

e.g. MySpace/FaceBook Blog thinger and such

since I'm so anti social over all I think only one person noticed, maybe more but they've completely ignored it if they did. btw that person stopped talking to me lol

oh well

Posted by: cowlover3167 Oct 30 2007, 02:58 AM

In my opinion some things are best kept to yourself, unless you are absolutely certain of the outcome of telling someone. Loving animals is highly taboo just about everywhere (at least in western cultures) as I'm sure you know. I've never told anyone outside this forum and probably never will.

Posted by: jamiet Oct 30 2007, 03:18 AM

That seems to be the general trend in how people think
every one has been brought up with these "taboo's" some are fair enough i know, but some are only wrong because some one at some point said they were.
I'll probably never tell any one.
but thats how i feel now, and im quite young.
i know that peoples look on life changes as they get older and they tend to not like keeping secrets so much. Especially from people they're close too.
so who knows
I dont think i know of any one whos told like, close friends or family
always people that have the same feelings
which i guess is fair enough

Posted by: ZetterGRD Oct 30 2007, 04:35 AM

This is a very common question, there are many older topics dealing with this subject. I've probably discussed this before, but aside from this forum, I haven't told anyone about my unique interests. It's nice to be open and accepted here, talking to people who share the same interests, but I still feel the desire to tell someone I know in real life. I always feel strongly compelled to tell my sister, since she's probably the most intelligent and level-headed person I know, and I'm confident she would be understanding.

Being more exclusive toward my animal preferences, I don't pursue human relationships, and I think the people who know me are starting to get a little suspicious. They know I'm not exactly normal, but they don't really have a clue. With each passing year, it seems to get a little bit harder to shrug off the questions and change the subject.

I wouldn't tell anybody unless they asked, and even then, I would probably make up an excuse. I've heard the negative stories of people who have confessed, describing broken relationships, ostracism, and potentially hostile reactions. Being well aware of these possible consequences, it's easy to think perhaps it might be best if I kept my secrets to myself.

Posted by: beast-_- Oct 30 2007, 06:40 AM

I would love to be able to tell someone in my life about my interests, but sadly, I doubt I ever will. I wouldn't dare let something like that slip, then God forbid, someone I didn't want to know at all finds out. Some things are better kept to yourself unless you know for a fact the other person can be trusted.

I've met many wonderful people in the

/Zoo world, and with them I am able to share likes and dislikes. I enjoy that a lot. Hopefully one day I'll get to meet them in person.

Posted by: KitsArriet Oct 30 2007, 12:03 PM

I have told a handful of people, though of course I don't go out broadcasting my sexual orientation to one and all. It's not unreasonable to share information about yourself with others that you interact with, but it's also a good idea to be selective. So far so good for me, everyone has been accepting of it, even if they don't have an interest or even disapprove of the behavior itself. You just have to make sure you know who you're telling, and that you're sure you want them to know and prepared for their reaction, whatever it might be.

Posted by: st benard Oct 30 2007, 07:40 PM

In the past I have only told a couple of people many years ago, did not go down with my now ex friend. And I have admitted my preference to one other person, he was a member of this site but passed away in April last year.

Posted by: energydog Oct 30 2007, 07:51 PM

I confess! I confess! I confess, to having to have admitted to people that I do this!!!

Posted by: booyah123 Oct 30 2007, 07:52 PM

i would LOVE to tell my girlfriend, and have her feel the same way, but i doubt that will ever happen.... anyway i keep my sexual pref. to myself... well, except for you guys on the board!

Posted by: jamiet Oct 30 2007, 11:21 PM

Its annoys me that we're forced to hide things
it should be one of the accepted sexual orientations as far as im concerned.
If your lover loves you back, and you treat them with respect, then i see no problems at all

you don't see the other animals making up rules with who they can love!

Posted by: Itzwolf Oct 31 2007, 12:10 AM

Only people I've told were actively involved as well. There is too much risk involved with telling those who haven't participated or at least interested.

Posted by: Texas Jack 58 Nov 1 2007, 11:43 PM

Think it would be best to keep it to yourself and maybe your mate if she or he knows you are into it. After all, it is illegal in a lot of places.

Posted by: curious1looking Nov 3 2007, 01:23 AM

A question that's come up here numerous times ........

I for one have no plans to discuss it with anyone outside this forum ..... I feel no need for others acceptance or judgement etc in the world at large ..... or to leave myself wide open to the possible disasterous consequences of "sharing"

Posted by: youppldisgustme5 Nov 9 2007, 05:34 AM

QUOTE (jamiet @ Oct 30 2007, 11:21 PM)

you're forced to hide this shit cuz its immoral and wrong. and it always will be you useless peice of shit. i hope all you animal fuckers die and burn in hell.

Posted by: Trojen Nov 9 2007, 01:53 PM

QUOTE (youppldisgustme5 @ Nov 9 2007, 05:34 AM)

QUOTE (jamiet @ Oct 30 2007, 11:21 PM)

you don't see the other animals making up rules with who they can love!

you're forced to hide this shit cuz its immoral and wrong. and it always will be you useless peice of shit. i hope all you animal fuckers die and burn in hell.

waaa!

anyspank, i've told only my clan on runescape

but im pretty sure that my lil bro knows... whenever anyone makes a zoo joke, he allways looks straight at me

Posted by: uvgarfius Nov 11 2007, 06:01 AM

I've only told my ex and two of my most trusted friends. Well, one of them is really trustworthy, the other one is just really tolerant of everything. The thing is, you have to evaluate who is good at keeping the important things to themselves. None of those three think any differently of me, except that I've got a weird fetish. It's really not that big of a deal to tell your close friends if the time is appropriate, but you also have to take into account how sexually devious they are and thus tolerant.

Posted by: sage43 Nov 11 2007, 08:16 AM

The only one that knows is my wife. I was honest, to the point. Now does she share the same interest. Kinda. There have been a few occasions where she has encouraged a nice liking(on me) but not her. After that its been a lot of giggles and teases

I hope to keep this type communication going until we are well old and grey.

Posted by: Tabarikan Nov 11 2007, 11:08 AM

Some good friends know it but they share the same interests as well. Apart from that I haven't told anyone. I still consider this a private thing and in addition to that, people who don't have those feelings can't understand you. They only might tolerate you. So I keep this mostly for myself.

Posted by: EnigmaticVixen Nov 11 2007, 01:14 PM

Several of my friends know, and my last several relationships have included me admitting my interests and being accepted and encouraged.

Posted by: Shy Doglover Nov 11 2007, 03:54 PM

As other forum members have already said, you've either got to be pretty sure of the way the person that you want to tell about your sexual preferences is going to react, or be prepared to be sharply critasized. I would say that you've got to know a person extremely well before you can broach a highly delicate topic like this one. I have known my former girl friend for 34 years and I was quite sure that she would understand if I told her. When I actually told her about my very close relationship with Shadoe, she was as supportive and totally understanding about the situation as I thought she'd be.
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She even made the comment that it was the most beautiful love story between a man and a dog that she had ever heard of, and she felt that Shadoe knew my own feelings even better than I knew them myself.

On the other hand, my ex-wife also really loves animals especially dogs and cats, and she is always talking about how closed minded people are about spirits and reincarnation and about paranormal phenomena in general not to mention blindness. So, I took my cue from that statement and figured she'd be open minded enough to handle my confession. She wasn't!

I happened to mention a certain person that I felt had become a friend that I was in touch with via E-mail and naturally she wanted to know how I first became acquainted with this person. When I simply mentioned this forum to her she became absolutely disgusted and she started lecturing me for five minutes on how wrong it is to force animals to have sex. I tried to explain to her that it isn't forcing them at all but she wouldn't listen, and she kept saying, "Oh those poor poor animals" over and over again.

Of course, one thing that I hadn't taken into consideration when I attempted to make my confession to her was that several times while she's been talking to men on one of the telephone dating services that she is a member of, she has been asked by several men if she's ever had sex with her guide dog. I guess she always laughed it off and thought, "O well, I guess it takes all kinds and these guys are just really kinky." I realize now that it was a mistake to tell her about it, but thankfully it hasn't effected our relationship any, and I think she's forgotten about it by now. So, I got one positive and one negative reaction and I don't think there's anyone else that I'd ever tell. I'd certainly NEVER tell anyone in my family because I'm sure that no one in the family would be able to begin to understand it. So you do have to be extremely careful who you tell anything like this to if you tell anyone at all.

Shy

Posted by: smoothgirl Nov 11 2007, 04:15 PM

I have come out to friends and some family. The reactions varied from indifference to indescribably bad. I'm not sure I'll get past it with some people. It makes me sad to know people I love and care about have rejected me in such a fundamental and personal way...

Posted by: ilgtdt Nov 11 2007, 04:32 PM

it was notice a few years ago, me looking at stuff like this. they may think i dont anymore. the only people i talk to about it is you guys

Posted by: bubjones Nov 12 2007, 01:08 AM

My first admission was was to my neighbor that introduced me to animal k9 sex. The second was to two school mates with several animals. The third was a neighbor. We both had female k9s, That we had sex with during their heats. My next was after being caught by my wife, having sex with a female Irish Setter. I had to confess to a counselor. Admitting to only that one incident. Much later I admitted to the wife that I had sex with another Setter over about three years, during her heats. If the truth was to be told, after she had her first litter, I actually had sex with her when ever we could get alone. There were actually three others that were never told to anyone.

Posted by: silkythighs Nov 12 2007, 02:48 AM

QUOTE (youppldisgustme5 @ Nov 9 2007, 12:34 AM)

you're forced to hide this shit cuz its immoral and wrong. and it always will be you useless peice of shit. i hope all you animal fuckers die and burn in hell.

This is exactly why it isn't a good idea to tell other people about our lifestyle. We may dismiss this member's for being a troll, but many people do indeed share this attitude. Even our your parents or siblings may feel the same. So be very careful about to whom you come out to with this.

Personally I waited until the day my hubby proposed to me. I was prepared to stop being active if he objected. Then again our relationship was already based on being sexually open, so I already felt that admitting this to him wouldn'd freak him out too much.

However if I knew it was something that would deeply offend him, I would never had told him.

Posted by: patches1X Nov 12 2007, 06:23 AM

I have told my fiance and my best friend and they were both completely accepting of it and don't think any differently of me than before. I am very glad that I told them both. It's a great feeling to know that someone loves and cares for you so much that they can fully and trully accept you for who you are and how you feel even when society says it's wrong. It is also really nice to be able to talk about it with the people you love. But before you start planning a coming out party, bear in mind that I was very lucky and many people would not handle such information very well. It's up to you to judge whether or not it's a good idea to tell someone, but if they handle it well it can be the best thing you ever do. Personally, I think that if you are in a serious relationship with someone then they deserve to know who you really are, but that's up to you.

Oh, and if you do tell someone and they freak out or think less of you for it, then that's their problem and their loss! There's nothing wrong with you (unless you are hurting your animal partner), they just cannot open their eyes wide enough to see that love is too strong to be contained by any barrier, even the species barrier.

Posted by: 174242 Nov 12 2007, 08:00 PM

I told a girl who I was pursuing. Interestingly enough, she wasn't as disgusted as I was expecting.

Posted by: equineslurp Nov 13 2007, 04:38 AM

QUOTE (sage43 @ Nov 11 2007, 08:16 AM)

I hope to keep this type communication going until we are well old and grey.

Perfect!

Really, the one who _needs_ to know is your significant other...preferably before he/she says "I do" but after you two have become engaged.

Get it? No secrets between husband and wife! Trust me, a 13 year marriage with her NOT knowing was alot worse than if I had just told her and had her say no to marriage (and I wouldn't have had to deal with a 150k divorce)

My fiancee knows and she's not zoo at all. She loves me _more_ for being honest with her with such a taboo subject. She even helped me buy my lovely mare a little while back

Posted by: silkythighs Nov 13 2007, 06:02 AM

QUOTE (equineslurp @ Nov 12 2007, 11:38 PM)

My fiancee knows and she's not zoo at all. She loves me _more_ for being honest with her with such a taboo subject. She even helped me buy my lovely mare a little while back

That's wonderful

Thank you for sharing that with us.

Posted by: promethus Nov 13 2007, 10:20 AM

I agree with everyones statments on this thread.

Good insight from smart people.

One thing I've learned is people who hate us live there lives in fear.

I've have personally told a small group of close friends.

All excepted me as who I am, not what I am by what I do.

Only one person, my friend sylvie, said she accepted me and my life style.

But alas, our friendship has become cold and distant.......

We live our lives the way we want, with love and compassion.

To hell with those who cannot see our goodness.

My 2 cents.

-Chaz.

Posted by: ausdog Nov 13 2007, 01:02 PM

Have kept it to myself bar a long time girlfriend, she was ok with it but diddn't want to participate.

Posted by: clint424 Nov 13 2007, 08:24 PM

I would like to share my interest with someone but it would be to big of a risk, that person could always tell people about you if they got angry at you.

Posted by: White Fang Nov 14 2007, 12:07 AM

Only a few really close friends know about me 2 of them being members here. the other one not but understanding. As for family. My family would never understand at all. So they will never know.

Posted by: TSPony Nov 15 2007, 07:01 AM

i have told both friends and family ... for the most part i am accepted completely:)

Posted by: phreek Nov 16 2007, 02:49 AM

It is a lot like homosexuality once was, as homosexuality used to be (and to a certain extent still is) looked down upon. But slowly it is becoming a more accepted lifestyle, and one day zoo may follow in its footsteps.

Posted by: Harlan_Phoenix Nov 16 2007, 02:56 AM

My closest friends know...and my mother knows. For the most part, it's accepted. But I wouldn't dare be fully open with it.

Posted by: godoggo Nov 19 2007, 09:25 PM

I have never told any one about my love of zoo,Untill i met my wife,But she told me about her love of dogs before we got married then i told her about my fanisties and my first ever sex with a small pony mare,Chow good hunting.

Posted by: smut Nov 25 2007, 03:45 PM

my best friend knows. He's unlikely to say anything because his wife doesn't know I slept with him......